Oh, 1 more question, about somoene who

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Oh, 1 more question, about somoene who
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 8:59am

asks for your photo, then you hear nothing back.

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 10:36am

That's why I put my photos up front.

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 10:43am

I strongly disagree. I would HATE it, with a PASSION, if I got an email back saying thanks but no thanks after sending my pic.

I think it's MUCH more polite not to respond, personally.

Sheri

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:04pm
I don't think he was rude - would you really want to hear, yeah I got the pics but I don't find you attractive? I think in that situation the kindest thing to do is to ghost. I don't see a prob with you sending your note just to confirm that he did get the pix though.
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 7:08pm

I'm not so sure i felt it rude that he didnt respond at all ... its just not something *I* would do i guess- just ignore someone after I requested a photo of them. I am more up front than that. & no, i woudnt rather someone "ghost" than give a simple "thanks, but not interested".

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 9:06pm

Much like Sheri and Vex, I wouldn't want to know what the reasons were for a guy not responding after asking me for a photo, and that's why I usually have a photo posted when I have a profile up. (CL is the exception to this rule- there are so many goons there).

I'd probably figure no response means not interested. When someone writes me to ask if I received their pic- and/or says "What? was I too ugly or something?" I never respond.

I mean, what do they expect to hear? "Yes, good guess. Actually, I did find your photo to be quite revolting- but thanks anyway. Have a great day!"

Who really knows what's happening on the silent end. And incidentally, I think you are very pretty, so don't read that the wrong way! It's merely an example.

As others have said, he may have gotten busy. Maybe there was an emergency, he changed his mind about dating altogether. Who knows, maybe he has a preference for brunettes? Whatever the case, don't bother giving it a second thought :) There's someone else out there waiting for you to come along!

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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 10:16pm
Oh Honey, I've been on Match too, and you meet some doozies there!! Some are real and some aren't. They all want a picture of US, but aren't so quick to post one of themselves. Ever notice that? Rude, OH MY YES!! I do believe they think that because it's all by e-mail they feel no need to have any manners what so ever and that we have no feelings at all. I'm so sorry you got you feelings hurt. You look and sound like a wonderful person! I did eventually meet a very nice man, who treats me like a princess and loves me very much. I did happen to meet him on Match. Don't give up. Like mama said "you kiss a lot frogs before you get the prince". I did. I have a few horror stories to tell from computer dating, but that one good find makes it worthwhile. And one more thing to think about, you may just intimidate him with your brains!! Good Luck Sweetie :)