What does going slow mean to a man?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
What does going slow mean to a man?
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 8:12pm


I have met a guy online and we have been chatting for about two weeks. He lives close by so I asked him to meet me and he said that he wanted to take it slow and get to know me more better. Now I think if we met we would get to know each other much better than just chatting online. Then he said that he that he just broke up with his girlfriend and it would be hurtful to her if she had seen him with me. Why would he even care. he broke up with her. What should I do? Should I end it or stick around to see what will happen or am i waisting my time.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 8:33pm

I think it's more likely that he hasn't really broken up with his gf at all so that's why he's reluctant to meet.

I would email him and ask him to contact you when he's ready to meet in person. I doubt that will happen, but I guess there's no harm in giving him the benefit of the doubt.

Your instincts are right on btw...you can't "get to know' someone by email or chatting...it's only by spending time with someone in person that you get to know them.

Sheri

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Registered: 02-11-2006
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 8:38pm

Summer:

I think you should just keep chatting with him online and see what happens--he might feel more comfortable going out in the near future. I think his concern for his ex is a good sign--shows concern and loyalty...and character. Just keep dating others. my motto is keep all options open until there is an actual commitment. The more you date the less likely you will get upset about any one person----and its only a waste of time if it prevents you from dating others--which this early in the relationship it should not.

Good Luck!!
Jennifer