Update on Update on Speed Dating

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Update on Update on Speed Dating
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:57am

OK, so the one guy called.

heather 5-18-10
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:12pm

Well, if you're not into him, you're not. And I totally understand how the passage of time can lessen your interest level. I am struggling with that issue now as you know from chat...I feel bad that I told this one guy I'd go out with him again at the end of our first meet (which was almost 2 weeks ago now), but now I just can't bring myself to call him...so I guess I've changed my mind. It's been almost a week now since he called...and I'm sure it's rationalization but I'm thinking that he's probably already moved on and assumed I'm not going to call so sending him a "thanks but no thanks" email at this point would just be cruel and unnecessary.

So, yeah, you blowing the guy off probably isn't "good", but I understand ;-).

Sheri

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:25pm
Exactly.
heather 5-18-10
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:29pm

Right...which is not a great thing to do, but sometimes the alternatives aren't good either. Calling to tell someone you've changed your mind about going out with them...ick. I know I wouldn't want to receive that call.

Sheri

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 1:45pm

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I was on the receiving end of one of those calls once. It made me feel like crap and I would've preferred that he ghosted (good riddance).

And vexer, I totally understand how you feel. It's probably a combination of not being that into him and dating fatigue. Sometimes it's really hard to make yourself go through the motions for a new prospect when you've had so many disappointing experiences recently (or maybe I should just speak for myself :) And when you've just met the person, there's nothing invested so it's easy to move on if you're not gaga.

I've never done speed dating partly because I'm afraid I'd freeze like a deer in the headlights, knowing I had only a few minutes to make a good impression. But it sounds like a hoot, as long as you keep your expectations low (as always).

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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 3:23pm

Nope, you can speak for me on that part too!

heather 5-18-10
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 4:19am
LOL about the name thing. My X is Mike & truly, some guy coudl be Gods gift to women, & i still couldnt do it, if he were named Mike. Ick.
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