Dilemma
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| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:19am |
My current situation isn't directly related to online dating, but I have posted here before. I value and appreciate the feedback that I have received from everyone on this board so I am hoping that all of you can give me some advice once again.
A few years ago, I met a guy online and we became close and very good friends. We would go out to dinner, hang out, and talk quite often. He was like a brother to me--there wasn't anything that I wouldn't do for him. There wasn't any romantic feelings which was fine. I really enjoyed his friendship and having him as a part of my life. After two years of friendship, things changed and our friendship(for whatever reason)went sour and I decided to end it.
Now that a lot of time has passed, I find that I am thinking about him a lot, and I am considering contacting him. I've tried to think about my motivation for wanting to do so....guilty, curiosity??? I also think that I'd be stupid to contact him because what is over is over, but I still feel that maybe I should. I don't know what to do. I am really torn right now, and I would love to hear everyone's opinion. Thanks in advance for your help.

I guess if I were you, I would consider:
Thank you for your response. I am not exactly sure why the relationship went sour, and believe me, I've spent enough time analyzing it!:) He began treating me differently, and I felt that our friendship was no longer important to him. I felt like I was being blown off, and that he had moved on and no longer wanted to remain in contact. As a result, I chose to end the friendship.
I suppose I will never know the real reasons. Even if I spoke to him about it now, I doubt that he would be able to tell me exactly what happened from his point of view. I really don't see the point in that anyway as I view it as water over the bridge. I think that he may have been dealing with some personal issues and there was a lot of miscommunication and misinterpretation which contributed to the demise of our frienship.
I think that my motivation is a combination of things. I am curious to see how he is doing, and I truly miss having him as a part or my life. We had a lot of chemistry(not in a romantic sense). We could talk for hours and hours about nothing, and had a connection(humor-wise and intellectually).
I realize that I have nothing to lose by contacting him, and I am prepared for any response that I may receive back from him; even if he tells me where to go! I just wonder if this is a path that I want to go down again. I don't want to possibly rekindle a friendship and then have it fall apart again. I suppose I won't know though, unless I try.