I think he likes me....

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I think he likes me....
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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 7:39pm

So CL guy and I have now been out about six times. Normally I'm stupid, but I can totally tell this guy is into me.

I just can't figure out how I feel. He's attractive, intelligent, and we have so much in common, but he's not very assertive with women, and that's bugging me. He's also not the snappiest dresser in the world, which I KNOW shouldn't matter, but hey.

Just wondering when I have to make the decision to stick with him or kick him to the curb.







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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 2:30pm

I don't think any decision needs to be made until one of you wants to date exclusively. Actually, even then, that's only a commitment to not date other people, nothing more, so I suppose you could date him indefinitely until he wants a serious commitment from you, then you'd have to decide.

Sheri

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 10:20am

Maybe cool it for a while with the guy and see how you feel when you guys do get together. If you guys go out once a week now, turn him down one week. See him the following week instead.

Make yourself less available, but not to the point where he thinks you're kicking him to the curb. The time away will give you a chance to collect your thoughts and perhaps give you a clearer sense of how you feel when you do see him...

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:21pm

I'm "mental" to meaning I really appreciate confidence in a guy. I have a third date Saturday and he's not

 
 
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 1:01pm

woman want a man- a man is usually the one that is agressive/confidence and can take care of things.. when they are not this way, we can be turned off. give it time , but 6 dates you should know by now. maybe let him pursue you more

what actually do you mean anyways, can you explain more detail?

the dressing thing is that really that important? alot of guys need womento dress them and are not good at dressing themselves that is why we have to help them. I amnot say change them but guide them encourage them.. tell them what looks nice but not what doesn't.. positive reinforce them when they have something on you really like they will continue to wear it for you.

My man dresses ok and he does have a lot of nice dress shirts he will wear w/ jeans and he looks hot in them.. but when he wears them i have to encourage him and tell him those things to reinforce him to wear them more. If he wears something that i don't like or does't look good on him I don't say a word..

Also man when we went out on New years he dressed in a nice suit and wow. i was bowled over.. so give it time and maybe go on a shopping spree and look at things and say oh will you try this i think it would like hot on you.. sometimes they get use to the same old thing and need someone/something new to help thempush towards it.. it takes time. i am going on 10mths and my man has only worn the shirt i bought him once.. Ih ave towork on that, but lately it has been unimportant. what is most important is the stability he gives me, his emotional maturity and his financial responsibilty and communication those are the essentials for the long haul. not the way he dresses.

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 6:24pm

It's just soooo annoying. We have chemistry, but it's almost a friends thing, since he's just not that assertive. And he's an airline captain, so I KNOW there's some of that in there somewhere, but it's not coming out. Almost like he's that drooling puppy dog, ugh.

I guess it's that my heart doesn't do that funny skippy thing when I see his name on the caller ID and stuff. I'm not sure that matters, but I've never dated anyone before where that's never happened.