My wonderful neighbor
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| Fri, 05-12-2006 - 10:37am |
I have a neighbor whom I just adore. She lives across the street and she's a widow. Her huband passed two years ago. She's in her early 60's and is lively and energetic and is really a pretty lady as well as being a really good person. She has dated here and there but the men she meets treat her poorly (her husband was wonderful to her) and have cheated on her and/or stood her up. Just the other night she had dinner plans with a man that she had met a few weeks earlier and he never showed. She came to my house and hugged me and cried and told me she thought she was ugly. It broke my heart. I've suggested OLD to her, but she thinks she's too old to do it. We live in a major metropolitan area (burbs of Chicago) and I think there may be some good men out there for her. I told her I'd help photograph her and get her profile up and she's pretty computer savvy, but I don't want her to be hurt more than she's been these past few months. Any thoughts? Is it worth it for her to pursue?
Melanie

Anyway, she joined a support group for widows.
She made 2 very good friends. They are about her age or a little older. Both of them met their current husbands on Eharmony. So, you just never know!
Stephanie
Hey Mel,
I did a search on Match for my mom. she's 62. There was absolutely nothing of any interest there. Only like 4 matches, and those were yuck!!
What about some singles groups for her?? retirement villages usually have alot of activities...
Yea, that's my fear. She'll try and there will be nothing but yuck out there. She's active in her church, but I think since she and her H were so close the men there feel uncomfortable about approaching her. Our cul-de-sac is in a regular neighborhood and she's really too young to go to the senior center in our town (I used to work there and she'd be a baby compared to the people there!). She's really a gem and deserves only happiness. Thanks for your input Debs!!!
Mel
Of course the classic activity is to volunteer to meet people in addition to activities that she is naturally interested in, e.g. square dancing, hiking, etc.
Nowadays there are adult ed classes on being single/how to meet people plus there is a national online group for meeting others called MeetIn.org where there is a site for each major city.
Such a nice neighbor you are! I use to live in Park Forest and then worked in Naperville, now in Portland, Oregon (ex NJ native).
Mark