Giving out your phone number?

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Giving out your phone number?
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 11:29am
I'm new to the online dating scene. I signed up two weeks ago and received an email from a promising guy. We've only exchanged two short emails and he is already asking for my number so we can go out to dinner. How soon is too soon to give out your number?
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 1:17pm

Go w/your gut instinct! I usually give out my number after a few emails cause I like to talk on the phone and schedule a meet sooner rather than later. As far as your number, I'm told it's best to give your cell phone number instead of your home number. He can't trace you through your cell phone if he turns out to be a nutcase. Remember to meet him at the location. I NEVER allow a man to see or know where I live during the early stages.

Good Luck!

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:07pm
Steph said exactly what I would.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 7:56pm
I like to give my email after 2 or 3 mutual emails. Any longer and I get impatient to talk to the guy. If he doesn't ask for it by then, I sense that he has no intention of calling me or meeting up and that's usually right on so my communication with him wanes off. I just feel kind of weird when guys give their number and ask for mine in their first email. I just got one of those yesterday actually and I don't know how to respond without acting uninterested. It's like giving a random stranger passing you by on the street your number without exchanging any words with him. You just don't do that. But if they ask you out in the first email without requesting your number, I love that because it shows that the guy is interested and has confidence while preparing you for the fact that they'd like your number when you're ready to give it. I say go with whatever you feel comfortable with. Though I think that guys who want your number right away turn out to be impatient and demanding when you do finally meet them. A relaxed go with the flow attitude is what I look for in a guy.
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Registered: 07-21-2006
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 10:29pm
You can go out to dinner without giving him your number. Make plans via email. After you have met and had a nice face to face dinner, you can give your number. But, only if you are sure you want to see him again and you haven't gotten any bad feelings during dinner.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 11:45am
Yeah, you can, but I don't like that.
heather 5-18-10