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| Fri, 09-08-2006 - 1:53pm |
Hi all,
I have a little dilemma and I'm hoping you all can give me your advice on this. First of all, I just want to give you a little background about me. I have been single for a little over a year. I just recently started dating again (I'm 30), and all of my friends have someone so they're not into the whole "going out" thing (not in that way anyway) and frankly I'm not too much into the bar/club thing myself anymore either, so I've been going the online dating route. I've met a few people so far, gone on a few first meets, all nice enough guys but just nothing has really became of anything yet. So I met this one guy from a site and we talked on the phone a few times and got along absolutely great. He had me laughing the whole time. I couldn’t wait to meet him. Now here comes the part where I need the advice….
When I met him in person, he didn’t look like his picture in a couple of ways. 2 ways that are actually kind of important to me. He said he was 5'10 in his profile and he is a lot shorter than that. That's not a real big deal I guess. Also in the picture he was wearing a hat so I wasn’t ready for when he showed up not wearing a hat to see the fact that he was going bald. That DOES happen to be a big deal to me. That's one thing that's a big issue with me. I am just not attracted to men who are balding or bald. I know I seem extremely picky, but as I read in someone else's post here, we are all entitled to our own tastes and have a right to be happy and attracted to who we choose to be with. Everyone I tell this story to is saying that it is never going to work if there is not atleast SOME attraction there. And there isnt. Only the fact that we get along great and would probably make great friends. What do you all think I should do?

I ve been doing OLD for a while now (18 months) so I have some experience. Here is what I learnt and I m not generalizing:
1- Guys who wear hats, baseball caps,... and cover their head in all pictures are bald or balding ( This is 100% true) so if you are not attracted to bald guys ask the guy indirectly to send other pics with no hats, if they dont send any pics assume they are bald and go from there
2- Guys almost always lie about their height. 5' 10'' is really 5' 8'', 5' 9'' is 5' 7'' ... so keep that in mind and look for 6' 2'' if you want 6':~)
3- If there is no chemistry but you get along fine you can be friends as well. Be clear with him let him know you feel more of friendship connection with him and not a romantic one and see if he still wants to see you and do stuff
4- Dont get discouraged, it is a long way before you meet someone you actually like. When you meet him you will know it was worth it. Out of 13 people I met face to face and about 100 I chatted with only 2 made it to a second date. Currently I m dating one of them.