Falling in lust online

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Falling in lust online
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Tue, 09-19-2006 - 4:47pm

I am a bit concerned with myself in regards to falling in lust with someone over the internet.

I recently started conversing with a guy who i met online. It wasn't through a dating site but an online hangout that we both frequent. He lives quite far away from me so there is no chance of us meeting unless we travel.

I am finding myself to be in lust with him. I can't get him off of my mind and i am alwasy thinking about him. We have spoken both on the phone and on the internet and we do have great conversations that have gotten pretty hot at times. We have also spoken about meeting up with each other in the near future when one of us can get away.

I don't know why i am so hung up on him and i really want to continue some sort of relationship with him. I especially like to talk to him on the phone but i don't want to seem pushy and tell him to call me all the time or call him constantly.

I really don't know what to do and i find myself sick over this. How is it possible for me to feel this way about someone i don't even know personally?

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 5:16pm

It's infatuation with the person that you see online.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 09-05-2006
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 5:28pm
I've been there and I understand what you're going through. In my opinion, there is nothing productive that can be gained from your online relationship especially when there is no likelihood of meeting, except possibly going down a slippery slope of engaging in something you might not want to or regret later. I was really "hung up" on him too and it felt real to me. It was so difficult and I felt so sad cutting off contact but the "pain" (if you could call it that, even though it felt real) passed soon enough. Now I look back and think "how could I have been so involved in that?" I think we just get carried away in the moment, the attention, the anticipation, etc. If you can find it within yourself, it may be best to let it go.