Is he desperate?

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Is he desperate?
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:51pm

I am fairly new to this board and want to get your opinion on how I should handle a guy that I feel comes off as desperate?

I have a profile on True.com, I added pictures and instantly started getting winks, we should chat, I want to know more about you... Stuff! There is this guy that I found attractive and responded to his "we should chat" message with a "I like your profile and would love to learn more about you" statement. He responded with a call me at such and such number. That was a turn off to me. I ignored his note and went about my business... Today I get a message that says "I have sent a feww e-mails with my phone # but either they blocked them or you changed your mind , let me know which. wuld you still like to have a drink?"

I find this guy attractive based on his pics.... but am torn with 1) Is the guy just desperate.... or 2) does he really think I am "worthwhile"?

Anyone have any suggestions?

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: shheart
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 5:10pm

Super pushy guys annoy me too.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: shheart
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 5:46pm

Online there is a different dynamic than in person. I find that emails get lost or people who don't check daily (or even weekly). Plus most people are new on what works online versus in person and visa versa.

I would give the multiple emails and phone number guy the benefit of doubt rather than label as "pushy" or "desperate."

I agree with cl-vexer on communicating what YOU want, e.g. rather do email before actual talking on the phone. I also agree on a prolonged exchange on email can produce a false sense of reality of the other person. My approach is a couple exchanges, talk on the phone and meet for coffee. I feel the only real way of getting the know the person is face-to-face.

Mark

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Registered: 09-19-2006
In reply to: shheart
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 9:36pm

Thanks for the advice.... I took it to heart and exchanged emails, a couple of phone calls and we are going to meet in person tomorrow. He seems like a very nice guy over the phone... but... we'll see what happens in person.

Thanks again for the advice :)