Why won't he go away??

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Why won't he go away??
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 4:46pm

OK, you know the guy I referred to as my "stalker" who emailed/texted/called 5 times in about 12 hours then I foolishly contacted him again?

heather 5-18-10

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Registered: 08-30-2006
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 4:52pm
Blow it off. They go away eventually. Some take longer than others.
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 4:57pm

I would just blow him off...I had a similar thing happen a couple years ago and it took a few months until the guy stopped calling completely but eventually he did...although he did call one more time a couple months later. Luckily I have a general policy of not answering my phone unless I recognize the number ;-), since I'd forgotten his by then (he did leave a message so that's how I know it was him).

I know it's annoying and creepy but unless you want to go to the police or something (and he's probably not calling often enough for it to be considered harrassment), there's not a lot you can do.

Sheri

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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 5:40pm
No, I'm definitely not prepared to call the police because you're right, it's not harrassment - he doesn't call at strange hours or over and over.
heather 5-18-10
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 6:38pm

Hi,

Keep records of his contacts in the event that you feel annoyed and threatened enough to call the police. Also, contact the managers of the dating site where you met him.

Bunny

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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 10:28pm
I ve had a guy doing the same thing. He would email, txt and call every week first then it went down to every 2 weeks and now he still contacts me once in a while. I never return his calls or emails. The problem is that I met him through friends and did not expect him to be a stalker. We never went on a date eventhough he made it clear he s interested. I just hope I will never meet him face to face again. It will be super awkward if I do.
I think a polite email to the guy who is stalking you might do the job. Tell him you changed your mind about him n good luck with his search. Hopefully he wont disturb you again. I wish I did that in the first place with my guy instead of ignoring him for a long time...
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 10:22am

Bunny, I met him on Craigslist so I don't think there is anything I can do about reporting him.

heather 5-18-10
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 2:35pm
Im just a random lurker here so I don't know the whole story but did you tell him or email him and let him know you weren't interested or did you just cut off contact. I found (in my dating days) that just blocking a guy and not answering his calls usually prolonged a situation that could have been handled with a "just no chemistry" email.
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 4:54pm
I definitely understand what you are saying but no, I've just stopped contact.
heather 5-18-10
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 7:25pm
Let's be honest: you dropped contact at first, decided to give it a go again by calling him back, and this is the second time you've dropped contact. Right? I thought I read this in a previous posting about this guy is all.
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 4:26pm
Yes, you are correct but it has been about 7 weeks since I last contacted him.
heather 5-18-10

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