What do you want? *cross post*
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What do you want? *cross post*
| Mon, 09-25-2006 - 5:57am |
*Cross posted*
What to you is the difference between wanting a relationship and wanting to see where things go? And which do you want? If someone offered to see where things go, what would you do? If from the beginning, they told you they wanted a relationship, what would you think?
Curious to see what comes of this one... :o)


wanting a relationship means feeling the need/desire to be with someone in general as the basis of a happy life... seeing where it goes is more practical approach and means the person is ok being single and not necessarily looking to be in a relationship unless they meet someone who intice them to go that way. Both are good in my opinion but they reflect different philosophies on being single.
I m comfortable with either if I like the guy. Personally I m from the "see where things go" school
It's interesting that for some people these 2 things differ. For me, I 'want'(don't need) a long term monogomous relationship, BUT~all I can do is start at the beginning and see how far the road goes. If the road ends somewhere, so be it,but you'll never know about the possibilities of longer term if you don't stick with it for awhile. I guess there is some value in saying that someone 'doesn't' want a long term relationship, if that's the case. Then people who feel the way I do can keep on moving.
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i see no difference and this is the KEY to dating and finding a relationship.
when you put so much pressure onto yourself to be in a relationship, i think you loose the ability to "just see where things go". When you see where things go, you seem to be more optimistic, more relaxed, and you show yourself ...
it is different for everyone/the circumstances/what was said, how they said it.
But, its all the same. It ends when you find the right person. It won't matter where/how/when you meet them, it just happens. Until that point, I think the interim is there to teach us and grow ourselves so we're ready for the next person, or the "one".
It took 4 years of being single to truly realize that , all the rules, all the sayings, all the how/when you meet someone doesn't matter. when its the right person, it wont be complicated and it'll just be. until then, to occupy your time, just enjoy the people you do encounter in dating. and when its time for them to be done in your dating senario (i.e. maybe after one date), then thats it.
Somehow it never comes together until you do find that person... and you look back and see all of it never mattered. What mattered was how you handled the "in between" time to the right person ;)
I’m in that situation now. I met a great guy, been out a couple of times.