skeptical about guy i met now
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| Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:14am |
So i mentioned last week that i had a date with someone, it was wednesday actually. things went well, we stayed out for a while and he mentioned that he'd like to get together again and would I. Next day we emailed a few times, then i went away on saturday and dont have internet down there. He had mentioned that he was hoping to see me over the weekend, i asked him when he'd be around, but i left before i got his response. He wrote back a fairly long email (i got the message late last night) he said he wished he'd known i was out friday night because he'd have come met me, then put in parentheses (unless you were on a date of course) and then asked if i wanted to get together sunday (he wrote on saturday)
I responded back saying that we could maybe do something this week. THen i looked at his profile and he's added two pictures. Now i know we only had one date...but the fact that he added other pictures after he and i had our date makes me question his interest level for me. It seems that he is still obviously trying to attract new people with these new pictures. I am still interested in dating others as well...but i guess that is the thing with online dating...in real life you dont 'know' necessarily if someone is dating others...but with OLD it's pretty easy to know, especially if someone is still checking their profile. I actually have thought about that and that is the only unusual problem i see with OLD-just pretty much knowing that they are likely dating others. I have read on the boards about people who met online and are wondering when the other will take down their profile...what do you think? He definitely SEEMS interested, but now that he's put up new pics...i wonder.

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He can be interested in you, and still interested in meeting new people. It's not an either/or thing! It's not smart for either of you to put all your eggs in one basket until you've dated for a while so don't take it personally that he's chosen to put new pics on his profile.
Sheri
I've had some great first dates yet continued to update my profile or add new photos. Why? Because I believe it's smart not to put a great of "hope" in one person from early on. Keeping your options open is good, especially in the early stages of dating.
Plus, having your profile up kind of keeps the other person guessing. And that can be a good thing. I'd seriously question someone (and it has happened) who removed their profile after going out with me once or twice. I'd think they were a little too eager.
While everyone has a different approach to dating, I've learned it's good to meet a few people. Several if possible...to find the best match for me. You also get your money's worth out of your membership. Might as well make the most of it.
You need to STOP having expectations. Treat him like some guy your lukewarm for and put yourself in that situation.
OK, I see a pattern here and don’t take it the wrong way – your always busy on the weekends that is primetime dating time and most women kill for weekend dates. If some guy were to write me off with that message your about to I’d think I was ‘better off’… can’t you find some time on Sunday to meet up with the guy – your entire weekend is booked?
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