What Would You Do??

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Registered: 05-09-2005
What Would You Do??
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Tue, 10-03-2006 - 5:15pm

Okay as most of you guys know I've been back online for the past 4-5 weeks. I've had tons of flirts and a few chats, few telephone conversations, but nothing further - no meets and greets (in the past 3 weeks)! Last week, a guy responded to my ad (he lives in Houston, TX) and told me I was attractive and since he was planning on visiting ATL in 2 weeks wanted to know the hot spots. No problem, I obliged. I actually like letting people know where to eat, latest clubs, etc. I ended the email with "if you need a personal escort, I'll be glad to show you around!" LOL He responded and thanked me for the information and asked if he could have my phone number. I replied w/my number and he offered his number as well. He called me on Friday, and I returned the call last night.

Oh, let me back up before the phone call. Although he called me on Friday, he did send an email asking me if I would like to have dinner on Friday, and also attend a golf tournament on Saturday, when he arrives this week and also what was my availability for the whole weekend? I told him that dinner would be fine and I had errands to run on Saturday but was basically free after 4 pm and all day Sunday. The golf tournament will be over by 4:00 pm so I will miss that. He replied and said "Great to dinner and I will send you the address to my aunt's house!" I didn't reply but was thinking "his aunt's house?" WTF? LOL

So we talked last night, had a nice conversation (very easy to talk to, personable) and he proceeded to tell me his address to his aunt's house. Actually during the conversation he dialed his mother on another phone for the directions. I'm thinking, WTF? LOL I told him that I normally don't meet a guy's family from the start and he understood, but also stated that it was no big deal, his family is pretty cool! I then said, well how do I explain how we met -- should I say I met you online? He said, No, we will just say that we met several weeks ago at the airport and exchanged numbers.

What would any of you guys do?? Would you go and have dinner w/his family? Spend time w/him during the weekend?

HIS PROFILE:

Stats: 36 yo, tall, dark & handsome, originally from San Diego, CFO for a healthcare corporation, no children, never been married and is seeking a serious relationship.

A little about me...
I am career and goal oriented, I like meeting people that are energetic and outgoing. I have a great career that pays well and provides self fulfillment.. I travel extensively and try and play golf whenever time permits.. I am more spiritual than religious although I know that there is a Higher power, and all of my blessings come from my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

What are you looking for in a partner?
I am seeking someone outgoing and sensual, and Fun.. Sporting events, working out, Movies, plays, concerts are some of the qualities I look for in a mate... She should also be extroverted, aggressive, and I must say again fun.

I'd just like to add...
God Fearing? Don't we all fear God? I have been seeing that in alot of profiles. I am far from Perfect, So you don't have to be either. Peace love and Happiness... What's up with the Bookmarks and Flirts? Why Bookmark someone without first communicating that thought. What are the first date rules? Just trying to figure this online dating thing out?




Edited 10/3/2006 5:21 pm ET by tstephnic
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Registered: 04-29-2003
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 5:25pm

Hmmm… that’s a tough situation. On one hand its refreshing he values family but on the other this is an on line meet and greet and you might want to meet the man in a public place. Who is to say he’s some psycho guy who will lock you up in his house or Aunt’s house if he’s being truthful – maybe the phone call to mom was an act so that you would trust him more – you don’t know.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 8:02pm

Nope, wouldn't do it. Not only is it not cool to not meet in a public place for safety reasons, he's making you go out of your way to go to where HE is--that's uncool from an etiquette/courting standpoint, IMO.

Have him meet you for dinner at a restaurant in a central place he can get to by public transportation (I'm assuming he wants you to come there since he won't have a car?).

Sheri