How Often Do You Want Contact?
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How Often Do You Want Contact?
| Tue, 10-10-2006 - 5:46am |
Maybe it's just me, but I don't want or need contact every day from a new acquaintence that I meet online. The two men that I met recently want to call me every day, and for me, that isn't working - it makes me feels smothered. I am the kind of person who needs some time to myself. When I talk on the phone with them, both want to talk for several hours at a time and I'm just not into talking on the phone that much.
I'm just wondering how the rest of you feel....perhaps it's all relative and a personal choice.
I have heard from a few gals at work who are single that they feel neglected if they don't hear from a guy every day.
What's your preferences?
Callie

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I'm with you. I once dated a guy who called every day, twice a day! I hated it. I'm not a big phone person (frankly, I don't see the point) and he kept doing it even after I told him I'm not a phone person. And the conversations ran along the lines of "what did you have for lunch today?" I ended up dumping him because we had nothing in common and it was such a relief not to get those calls anymore.
Most guys aren't phone people, I've found, and a woman who expects a guy to call her daily comes across as very needy, IMO.
Well, I don't need a long drawn out conversation daily but a quick hello at the end of the day to let me know that I'm being thought of is what I like. It can be just a brief 5 minute call. I'm not into talking for hours on the phone either. I'd be just as happy with an e-mail also. I like a little daily interaction though (depending on how much I like the guy though).
~Dani~
I will be honest and say that you are I are alot alike. I too don't need that much contact from a new acquaintance during the early stages. Of course, I'm feeling this way cause my expectations are low and I have yet to have met the person in real life.
Now, on the otherhand, if I'm out and about and meet a man that I am intensely attracted to, then I would probably be a bit more open to communicating with him (or at least would want to) 2-3 times a week and could probably chat for an hour or so (on one of those calls).
Me, personally, if I really like the guy, I enjoy a lot of phone contact. But I've actually posted on here about that very question, and I'm learning I need to back off some. I tend to call guys way too much. I did even have one tell me he's not a big phone talker.
If I'm not interested in the guy, I dread when they call and don't want to talk.
I once had a female friend who didn't even like talking to her boyfriend on the phone and he was the same way. They just e-mailed each other and chatted online.
GREAT responses gals! I am agree that it depends on how much you like a guy as to how often you want to hear from him. The one man who (I thought) was the love of my life...well, I wanted to be with him 24/7!! So, I obviously haven't met Mr. Right yet (or again..lol).
Thanks for all your input!!
Callie
Also, anything that starts out blazing is more likely to burn out quicker.
I have to agree, if a guy wants to talk to me every day I assume he is too needy and stalkerish. Once a week between dates would probably be plenty.
I do recall those long conversations with my ex where we would talk about nothing and then neither of us could hang up. Looking back, I'd say that was a sign of boredom+immaturity for us rather than true love. I can't imagine doing that now, even with someone I totally loved.
I'd much prefer to be thought of via email that I can answer right away or at my leisure.
I'ma be honest: if I'm feeling a guy, I'd love for him to call to say hello everyday! Just keeping it real. Those two hour conversations about nothing....I can do without those!!!
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