Online dating for me so far

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Online dating for me so far
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 1:21pm

So online dating for me has been a great way to meet new people. However...I have not clicked with anyone that i have met yet. I think I've gone out with 7 people since i started in mid august. Not to sound shallow, but i've found that i've been disappointed with the appearance of pretty much everyone that i've met. I'm realizing that just because someone looks good or looks a certain way in their pictures, it doesnt mean they will look that way in real life. The guy i went out with on saturday HAD to have lied about his height. He put that he was 5'8, but there was NO WAY. I am 5'5, had on a slight heel, but standing next to him i was definitely either his height (my heels were not 3 inches) or taller. I honestly felt a little mad...he was a perfectly nice guy, but i wanted to say, dude, you're like 5'5, 5'6...why are you trying to say you're 5'8? I have found that a lot of the men i meeting online (with the exception of one) are very petite or something. My dad and brother are probably 5'8, 5'9, they are good looking guys, but they are built, dress well, etc...the guys i'm meeting i feel huge next to. Maybe huge is an exageration...but you know what i mean.

I will not be like some of the other posters and say, that's it, i'm never doing online dating, etc, because like i said, i am meeting people...i just so far cant seem to find anyone i like. I have even done searches online...no one really catches my eye. I was in a bar the other night-good looking guys everywhere. One guy asked for my # which was nice...but i wish these guys would be online! lol. Again, i am not shallow, but i do have a few standards when it comes to appearance just as most of us do.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 10:27pm
Your numbers sound pretty typical. 7 dates & no real connection with anyone.

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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 11:53pm

I have totally been here. One guy said he was 5'11 and he was at least 5'7. He also had this one eye that wandered around. Another guy acted said he was 5'4 and I'm 5'4, so I said well why be shallow. But when I met him, he was about 5 feet tall and he had scoliosis, so he was actually curved w/no neck. I still dated him because he was handsome, and girl, he ghosted on me after a few dates. WTF lol

I do online dating when I am bored of my routine. It give me the something to do. Right now I like this guy but he's in Canada, so we are just enjoying each other but I am trying to take it day to day. Have fun with it, and keep yourself positive. I play this game where I send winks to guys who aren't normally my type, because if I flirt with the ones that are, and this happens, what's the harm? good luck in love

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 9:43am

I have not done OLD for quite a while now. I went out with several that ended up being one-time dates. One guy & I dated for 3 weeks in the summer of '05. It hurt when he bailed on me, but looking back, I could see how shallow and narrow-minded he was. We were not a match at all, but he came on strong and was good looking, so I was a bit boiled over by his attention. Had another one-time date in Jan. of this year and the guy e-mailed me saying he did not feel "chemistry". Anyway, he still has a profile online and at 49 expects to find a woman to give him children. Yeah, good luck with that.

Then came Mark in early Feb. of this year. We dated for 3 1/2 months until a nasty custody deal overtook his emotions, mind and common sense. He also bailed on me and did not even have the balls to tell me he was going back to his estranged wife. Mark was diabetic, overweight and had severe E.D. problems (which he refused to get help for). Despite all of that, I cared for the guy. He said he was in it for the long haul and so was I. His family told me I was the most decent, caring woman he had ever dated. His family could not stand this estranged wife and to this day he and his sister have not spoken. I have slowly convinced myself that I have actually dodged a bullet.

There HAS to be someone better for me, but finding him is a major obstacle. Anyway, that in a nutshell, has been my experience with OLD. I hope you are thick-skinned enough to take the letdowns and guys who simply never call again--sometimes even when there seems to be chemistry and you both seem to like each other. I hope that hasn't been the case for you, but my skin was and is simply NOT thick enough to take the letdowns with it all. I have been on "hiatus" for several months now.




Edited 10/12/2006 9:53 am ET by mitsy2
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Registered: 02-02-2005
Thu, 10-12-2006 - 10:32am
thanks (: well i have to say that i've been the one in not calling people back...sure it's bound to happen to me, has before plenty offline...but online...i just havent been impressed with the people i'm meeting.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 10-13-2006 - 3:29am
Your post cracked me up! lol
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Fri, 10-13-2006 - 3:30am
(((((hugs))))) honey!
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