Don't know what to think about this

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Don't know what to think about this
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 5:06pm
Ok, I've had the worst dating luck ever this year and have dated a whole bunch of guys very casually (one date to a few dates) so of course Im let down and don't really believe that I will find someone any time soon. Well, I emailed this guy off of an online dating site that I thought fit my criteria and of course didn't expect him to return my email back because usually the attractive, smart, caring, interesting ones seem to be bombarded with emails. I was surprised when he did write back to me and mentioned something about me being out of his league because I was looking for someone who has a bachelors degree and he only has some college. I told him that this isn't what matters to me. The thing that matters is the kind of person someone is and as long as they are responsible, enjoy what they do and are working towards goals. His profile was written really well and the things he's had to say back to me in our 2 email correspondence were really cool. It almost seems too good to be true though. I know I haven't met him and I don't know him and I can't tell something from someone just from emails and what not but maybe I'm getting a little bit excited about this and hopeful. Have you guys run into situations in which the person seems too good to be true and then when you meet up with that person you realize that they were not who they put themselves out to be and you were let down? Granted I haven't even talked to him on the phone yet and probably will give him my number the next time he corresponds with me and see if he takes the initiative to contact me by phone. I rarely if ever get excited about corresponding with someone but for some reason with this guy I kind of do. I hate to get my hopes up after a couple of emails but maybe the only reason why I do is because it "seems" as if this person meets a lot of my criteria for someone and I've had such bad luck lately with dating.
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 5:51pm

I think I am in the minority when I say that I DO feel you can get sort of a "feel" for someone in just a few emails. BY NO MEANS do i mean that you know them, or that they may be totally NOTHING like they come across, but *I* find, for ME, that I can weed people out really quickly in a few emails - or weed them IN. lol

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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 8:49pm
Well, it appears as if this guy and I have quite a bit in common just from writing back and forth a few times and he's cute too (well, at least in his pictures he is) but he has quite a few pics including a close shot so I can get a good idea of what he looks like. I know I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket. In fact I was deciding to take a break from the online dating stuff for awhile because I was just sick and tired of the whole thing but he caught my eye and I only have a few days left on my subscription so I thought what the heck. So I'm going to see what happens out of this and if nothing happens, take the break that i planned to take from online dating for a little while because I've been very burnt out with it. I guess I'll just have to see what happens and trust my intuition for now, talk to him on the phone, maybe meet and get to know him better. Wish me luck!
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 12:02am
I agree with the previous poster, it is quite easy for me to get a feel for the person's personality and character immediately. My gut has been right about people 95% of the time. Perhaps there's some potential there! Good luck! I hope things go well for you.
Devorah
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 1:59pm
Thanks devorah
I'm hoping that he calls me. I gave him my number via email and he told me yesterday that his next correspondance will be over the phone and he would call soon and thanked me for my number but I haven't heard from him yet. I'm hoping he does call within the next couple of days. I'll give it a little bit of time and try to be patient. I don't like getting my hopes up though. I get a good feeling about him as a person and I'm hoping my intuition is right but I guess I'll just have to see..... I can get a better idea from how a person is by speaking to them on the phone and then of course meeting up with them.
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 2:22pm
there were a couple of times i felt excited about meeting the person i was conversing online with...but then i met them and it would be a let down...so i have learned to not have high expectations. I havent felt like, 'oh my gosh' spark with anyone yet...i imagine if i did, i'd feel how you are feeling now. It's ok to get excited...but you have to be realistic too. I have a date tonight and from the pics the guy is cute, seems nice...but who knows. I might meet him and there could be no attraction.
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 2:49pm
I do need to keep a healthy perspective on this. I haven't even talked to the guy on the phone and i don't even know if he'll call me. I guess one day and one step at a time. I may even decide after talking to him that we don't even mesh and won't even want to meet up with him, who knows. The worst feeling is getting your hopes crushed when you are excited about meeting with someone and there is absolutely no attraction or if you've had a good first date and the person doesn't call you back. It brings you back to square one again and then makes you wonder even more if you'll ever meet up with that one for you. I wish you luck on your date tonight.
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 2:56pm
Thanks (: right now i'm starving so i feel excited abuot where we are going out to eat, lol. sometimes it is uncomfortable meeting new people...especially when you are both looking forward to the night, then something doesnt click...i dunno...that has been my biggest problem with OLD...i sort of prefer meeting someone in person for the first time, then you can tell right away if there's a spark...
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Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:17am
I just read about your last date corbeach and am sorry to hear that it didnt' turn out as expected. I guess it's just par for the course huh? I've had more than 7-8 guys that I didn't like either this last year. It happens so much with online dating. Well this guy who I had been emailing back and forth a few times who seemed really cool called me tonight and we are meeting up on Thursday. He was very easy to talk to. His voice was a little different than I thought it would sound just by looking at his picture. A little on the dorky/high side (you can't expect perfection though :-)) but our conversation went very well and he seemed like a really good guy. I am looking forward to meeting him but like you said you just never really find out what a person is really like and if you'll click until you meet them face to face. So I guess I'll find out on Thursday. I'll keep you guys posted on how it goes.........