So rude!

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Registered: 05-01-2006
So rude!
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Wed, 10-18-2006 - 8:20am

I've been doing OLD dating for a couple years and have developed a pretty thick skin but apparently not thick enough to deal with an insult from a complete stranger. I sent a nice e-mail to a guy on Plentyoffish.com to receive a response from him reading "Hello, Unfortunately your not my type. I like them good looking." I thought that was an extremely rude and unnecessary response. If you're not interested in someone, then either send a simple "Thanks, but I don't think we're a good match" or don't reply at all! While I would normally let this type of thing go, it was really bothering me that a stranger thought he had the right to insult me so I decided to stoop to his level (childish, I know). I wrote: "Well apparently you need glasses then and a grammar lesson - "you are" is spelled "you're" not "your". Good to know because I like them intelligent!"

The kicker? My e-mail wouldn't go throught! He blocked me so I couldn't respond. What a loser - to drop an insult but be too much of a wimp to deal with the repercussions!!

Phew, I feel better now that I vented. Thanks for listening and hopefully you found some amusement in all this :o)

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:38am

Rule number one that I learned from doing OLD:

1. There's almost always a reason these guys are single.

In his case, he's not only looking for a fantasy, but he's also stupid.

You should feel sorry for the poor bloke. He's going to be masterbating alone in his bathroom for a good, long while.

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Registered: 02-02-2005
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:50am

Oh my gosh!! that was so rude and SOO unnecessary! What a loser! from what i can see in your pic, you ARE good looking so I would not even worry about this idiot at all. Wow, his response has made me mad!! what are people thinking?? He's probably just bitter about life in general though...who cares. I once posted without a pic so once i winked at someone and they asked for my pic...as soon as i sent it they wrote back, sorry we are not a match. of course i felt like, who the hell does he think he is? but whatever...i guess i wasnt what he was looking for looks wise

'Rule number one that I learned from doing OLD:

1. There's almost always a reason these guys are single.'

so as far as this comment goes though...what about all of us who are single and doing online dating?

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Registered: 07-20-2001
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 11:03am
Let me first say that if you look anything like your photo to the left of your post, you are very nice looking. HE is a loser, and I think it is sad that he blocked you because I would have written a very similar response to him. I could not have just let it go. He is the type you want to put on the site "Don't Date That Man". He is probably doing this to a number of his connections or matches. He is probably one of those who comes off cocky but deep down has a lot of self-esteem issues. Don't worry, karma will bite him in the A$$ at some point. :)
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Registered: 07-20-2001
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 11:09am
I think it means that there are damn few decent guys around and many do not recognize a good woman when he has one or has the potential to be with one. Hopefully, the ones of us still looking will eventually find our match. This guy may stay single for the rest of his life. I pity whoever might get involved with him. What an idiot and a pathetic loser he has proven himself to be.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 1:25pm

You wrote:

...as far as this comment goes though...what about all of us who are single and doing online dating?

I knew someone would bring this up. I said ALMOST always.

I met my current steady through OLD, so yeah there are good people out there, but unfortunately they seem to be far and few between. Believe me, I had my share of jerks and stupid guys who, funnily enough, are STILL on the same dating sites that I used to belong to five years ago. Hmm. Maybe that's because they're genetically incapable of being involved with another human being and prefer their paper dolls and fantasies?




Edited 10/18/2006 1:32 pm ET by emdeesea
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Registered: 02-02-2005
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:25pm
i've met lots of peopel i havent clicked with...but i can honestly say that they seemed like good guys. Other than a perverted email, i havent met anyone (in person) who seems freakish, horribly rude. I havent wondered about any of them, heh no wonder he's still single...we just didnt click that's all...but someoen else pointed out that this is probably due to me living in a more urban area.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:43pm

I also met a few guys that I just didn't "click" with, but I met a WHOLE lot that there was really something wrong with them. (I guess I ended up with the freaks of the bunch...)

Perfect example: This guy I ended up being friends with for a while... He's 36, never married no kids. Nothing different about that in 2006, BUT... he's also never dated anyone longer than about three weeks. He told me that he always found something wrong with the other person. (That "something" usually consisted of him not liking the way she laughed, her waist wasn't thin enough, not liking her taste in restaurants, or her informality in grammar in relaxed company.) Geeze the guy was Jerry Seinfeld. There was ALWAYS something wrong with the woman he met.

The grammar thing was directed at me at one point. We were hanging out watching a movie, I made some comment about "laying" around (as opposed to "lying" around), and he got irritated and corrected me for sounding like a "redneck."

Geeze no wonder he's never met anyone. Who wants someone like that??

And I saw him online recently. He's still out there looking for his "perfect woman."

So the question in my mind is, what is it about me that I keep meeting guys like this?? :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2006
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 7:17pm

Well, since you ARE good looking you really shouldn't take it to heart.

Maybe he meant good looking in a nude kinda way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2004
In reply to: map73
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 11:32pm
I wouldn't worry; he sounds like a jerk. I think it's the opposite - he thought you were pretty but had some bad experience in the past with a really cute girl, and is somehow acting out his hostility by this immature e-mail put-down. He's creepy.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: map73
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 3:06am
LOVE it!!!!!!!

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