Keeping Email Conversations Going

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Keeping Email Conversations Going
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Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:32am

After being contacted by a couple different guys, they've both emailed back and forth with me 1-2x's. However, in their last email they just answer questions I've asked or add a little more info about themselves but don't ask me any questions, etc. So does that mean they aren't interested in continuing the conversation? I feel like there's not a flow to go back with an email to them with. One ended the email with thanks for the note.

At this point, it's been a couple of days and I haven't emailed them. I thought I would wait and see if they contact me again? One seemed to have a decent conversation going with me, but not really an invitation to write him back...new to this thanks!

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Registered: 10-18-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:56am

Hey Malisa,

The hardest part of OLD is keeping the emails fresh and going. It's hard to sit and write random things to people. I find that if I've gotten a couple emails back and forth from a guy that I suggest setting a "date" to chat using a messenger like Yahoo! or AIM. That way you can go from long emails to an actual dialog. I know from experiences that most guys don't know what to say or how to say it. Chatting will give you both the opportunity to be more fluid with conversation.

Just a thought!

Jessica

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 2:34pm
I've had that experience quite a lot, and initially, like you, I figured the guy just wasn't all that interested. However, one guy actually sent me an e-mail stating I shouldn't interpret the brevity of his messages to mean he wasn't interested, he wasn't much of a writer. After we met the first time I found he was very talkative, interesting and fun in person. We had 4 dates before his work travel schedule made it impossible to see him for about 3 weeks, he never tried to call me on the phone, both of us were dating others and I'd met my current BF so I just stopped e-mailing him. So I'd say keep an open mind, see what develops.
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Registered: 03-05-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 7:22pm

It may not be fair, but I like my guys to be literate. If they can't keep up their end of an email conversation, I tend to assume they won't be able to in person.

On the other hand , some guys just don't express themselves well in writing, but are great in person.

Go with your gut instinct.

I don't think they will write you back if you don't take your turn. I assume that they will assume I'm not interested if I don't respond equally.

I don't want an email pal, so if I got past a few emails I would ask for a meet or decide to cut them loose.

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 10:38am

Thanks for the responses! The one guy I'm more interested in, I emailed him back Wed. haven't heard back from him yet, hope to. The other guy emailed me again just saying "hi, again" so I emailed him back asking him how his week is. Again, he just tells me something doesn't ask me anything so I'm going to see if he emails me next week and if still no questions, I guess I won't email him again or tell him he needs to work on it if he wants me to email him back. Just what I want a few short hi email's each week.

Oh yeah, and I had a guy who emailed me who seemed like he could be a conversationalist and then in the second email he sent me basically said he was feeling me out because my profile makes me seem plain and wholesome, nice huh?