What's wrong with me? (profile help)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2005
What's wrong with me? (profile help)
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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 1:29am

Ok, a bit melodramatic I admit. Would anyone mind taking a look at my profile? I know right now my self description is a bit on the limited side, I've had more detailed ones up in the past and that didn't seem to work any better. I get few contacts and even less replies when I initiate... Thanks for any help you can provide.

http://personals.yahoo.com/us/preview/preview?search=1&resulttype=1&kws=0&searchinternal=1&position=8&total=212&adid=personals-1145573913-555928&affid=&searchview=1&searchsort=4&speed=2&advanced=1&primary=&searchname=&frmsrch=1

And... no idea how to make the link shorter... sorry!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2008
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 11:22am
Hi Stephanie,
I think your profile pictures look great! Although, in your essay I would remove the 3 questions: Friends? More? and Interested? That will give your profile more of a confident and strong appeal. You might also write just a couple sentences about some hobbies you have. Most of the emails I get are about the hobbies I wrote about...It's a good ice breaker...Men need something to talk about in their first email to you.
Hope this helps,
Devorah
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 12:57pm

Yes, the description section is too short, doesn't say anything about you. That's the place to show your dry wit and what you are passionate about. I found having an annecdotal account helped me stand out from the crowd. Although I don't have one now I used to have a bit about when I crashed my car on my last trip to Telluride which illustrated my seeing humor in adversity. I don't know if this will work, but you can look at my profile if it will open. I currently have it hidden, as I have a BF and therefore, am not active in Match. I don't know how to put it in a link like you did.
Match has an advice section that is open to nonmembers. There are articles in the archive on writing profiles.

http://www.match.com/profile/showprofile.aspx?TP=PS&uid=9n4oHtla2zRQyekIibaDLw%3d%3d&lid=21

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2005
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 7:35pm
Thank you to both of you for your help. I agree that my profile is a bit "lacking" right now, I just thought I'd try it out that way to see if it made any difference. I keep thinking there must be something bad about my pictures though. I know you said you thought they were ok Devorah, but any advice on those?