I'm in shock

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Registered: 09-27-2004
I'm in shock
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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 1:36am
Ok, this is weird for me. I actually had a really good online first date tonight. I'm very happy about that. We are going to hang out again on Saturday. I guess I'll have to see how it continues to play out. This is the guy I had a good feeling about after a phone call and a few emails. We seem to click very well so far and he's a cutie.
He really likes to shop, be in style clothing wise and share his feelings etc etc. very comfortable just being him and not succumbing to having to be masculine all the time. He says sometimes people think he's gay because he's so comfortable being open and honest and talking. I'm hoping he's not gay but I don't think he would mention that if he was. He's just a really great guy and I'm looking forward to going out with him again.

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 9:48am
That's awesome! I'm glad things worked out and that you're hanging out on saturday. I'd say that's definitley a good sign. I highly doubt he's gay so dont worry (:
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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 10:18am
Thanks I'm pretty happy about the way it went but I'm going to take things one date at a time with no expectations (easier said than done). Even if things don't work out then it still gives me hope that there will be good men and good dates in the online dating world.
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Registered: 04-07-2005
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 10:29am

This post is what this board is suppose to be about. A positive first date and hope for something more. Sharing that and receiving the support because we all know how anxious it is in this moment not knowing how this is going to turn out for you.

I am happy for you and hope that he is all of what you desire.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 4:59pm

Yay! Good news. Keep us posted on how the next dates go. :)

I doubt he'd actively seek out dates with women online if he were gay, so don't worry about that.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 5:33pm
Thanks! You do have a point there. If he was gay he wouldn't be online actively pursuing and then mentioning that people think he's gay because he's such a sensitive guy and likes to shop. If he was trying to cover it up he wouldn't discuss it with such ease and he wouldn't be actively pursuing. Maybe I just met a rare find. A man who is very in touch with his feminine side (ying and yang) but who's straight and cute too. That's pretty awesome I would have to say. I'll keep everyone posted on how it goes.......
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 6:18pm

The guy I've been seeing is a bit the same way - sensitive and fashion with-it, but not feminine. I think it's partially because he has only sisters.

It's too bad people are so quick to label those qualities as 'gay' - poor men don't stand a chance if they're not sports freaks and burping every three seconds.

Heck - I HATE shopping, so maybe he can help me pick clothes. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 1:16am
Yeah, i doubt he's gay too. Just have FuN!!!!!!!!!

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Sat, 10-21-2006 - 2:47pm
I actually like when guys aren't sports freaks because I don't like watching sports at all. I guess I do like the men with the efeminant qualities for the most part since I'm a very sensitive person and it helps to have an understanding man.
Tell me about the new man you've been seeing. I'm curious to hear.... sounds like a good guy though, any guy that likes to shop is cool
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Registered: 03-05-2006
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 4:42pm

Well, if he were in denial about being gay, he might try to convince himself by dating women, etc.

Metrosexual is the word you are looking for!

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Sat, 10-21-2006 - 8:14pm

Yea, I'm glad to hear that you had a good first meet! Even if things don't work out, I find that good first meets help because it restores your faith that there are potentially good guys out there.

Sheri

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