I'm his first online date

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Registered: 02-02-2005
I'm his first online date
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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 10:46am

I was actually the first person he ever contacted through online dating and we have a 'meeting' on sunday. Should i not have hopes for this since he is so new to this? We have been talking a lot this week...i was shocked by how long some of his emails to me have been. He seems really cool, he's cute, seems outgoing...i guess its seems like one of those too good to be true situations. we were talking about chemisty and things like that in a few emails. Here is his latest message to me:

'Sunday sounds like a plan. If there is no chemistry is it ok if I just get up
and leave you? Haha! I am kiddin.. I am looking forward to my very first online
meeting and only the 2nd b lind date of my entire life (probably doesn't count
as a date, but I will count it anyways!).

Have a good day today.'

I have no idea what will happen...i know none of you do either...i guess i am used to feeling disappointed lately...what i dont like him, what if i do like him and he doesnt like me?

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Registered: 04-07-2005
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 11:37am

What is the difference between an online date and just a date? Do you think because this is his first online date that he doesn't know how to date?? Like any date with any man just go into it with an open mind and have fun. Quit trying to read between too many lines here.

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 8:20pm
I know what you mean about feeling disappointed so many times. But just go into it without any expectations (easier said than done). I tried to do that with this person that I went on a date with last night. I was pleasantly surprised that we did end up clicking in person too as well as on the phone since that rarely happens but you never know...... Try to go into it with indifference for the first couple of dates until you realize that it might go somewhere. I'm trying not to get too excited for the 2nd date with this guy. I'm looking forward to it but I'm not trying to read too much into it. I can usually tell if I want to continue something more with someone after the 4th date.
I'm wishing you luck with this I know how you can start getting excited over the emails. I felt the same thing with this man. I was very excited to hear from him over email and when he called I was very glad.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 1:14am
I agree with the others - on line or not, its still a 1st date. Go in with open expectations, but not too high. I know though, its hard if you feel you may click! Hopefully ... you DO!

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Registered: 09-24-2006
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 2:01pm

I went out yesterday with a guy on our "first date/first meet" and it was his first meeting someone off the internet, and it was pretty cool, we have been chatting online for a while and so it was totally easy to talk to him. He also kept saying how it was so easy to chat with me because we have been talking so much together online. Don't worry that it is his first time meeting a girl off the internet. If it works it will be fun, and if it doesn't there are plenty more guys on the internet, thast the best part of the online world!!!

Hope it goes well!!

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 4:01pm

I think it's better in some ways... he's not "tainted!" He's excited, not jaded and is looking forward to it... No matter what, that's nice, isn't it?


You'll have to keep us posted as to what happens!


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Registered: 02-02-2005
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 7:40pm

well we just had the date, of course I really have no clue what will happen next. I was happy with his appearance, which is RARE with online dating for me. So that was cool. We had some food, a drink, talked. He seemed very talkative over email, but not so much in person. He mentioned again that he has only been doing online dating a week, has not gone public with his profile basically because he's afraid of people he knows seeing him on there. So he was the one to end the date basically after about an hour and a half. Is that a big deal? I mean i know it's sunday night, people have things to do. He asked what i was doing tonight, i said nothing really, what are you doing? he said he was going to watch football at 8:30 or so. So when we left he hugged me, and said he would be in touch over email or the phone. He did comment during the date that i looked good in my pics, even better in person. i figure he didnt have to say this...he did talk a bit about past dating experiences which i dont particularly like on a first date though

what do you think? I have no idea...