Awesome first meet!
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| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 7:00pm |
I'm changing my handle here since I suspect my Ex has been reading my messages. You'll just have to guess who I was last week but don't post it if you know cause he'll just search it and I'm tired of him snooping. Not that I really have anything to hide.
Anyhooo, my first OLD was a month ago and was a fun date but he turned out to be a clinger. I wanted to give myself plenty of time to absorb that experience. Today I drove 40 miles for a first meet with a guy I met on Yahoopersonals. We have BOTH been members for about 3 weeks. I liked him right off because he opened his profile with a corny joke. I was quite smitten by his emails which are incredible for a reason, he is a professional writer. We had to email for 2 weeks because he was out of town last weekend. As soon as he got back, I asked for a meet. He was apprehensive, but I assured him we needed to meet face to face sooner rather than later. If we had stuck with email I'd have proposed within the month.
We met at 11 at a cafe, had chicken salad sandwiches. I could barely eat mine, I was so focused on the conversation. He isn't as handsome as his picture. He has quite a baby face and would not normally jump out at me in a crowd but he is pretty darn cute with bright blue eyes. Very friendly. Shook my hand.
I shocked him right off by asking about his divorce. He hesitated, then asked me about my separation (fair enough). So we swapped brief versions---I just wanted to do a baggage check before I got too far into this. His wife was just unhappy and left, he was willing to work on it but she refused. I got no sense of dishonesty in anything he said. In fact, he said some very profound things about divorce in general that I could have said myself if he hadn't beat me to it, so recovery wise we seem to be on a similar page.
We talked about work, school, family, life, then I got cold so I suggested we go for a walk. He paid for lunch and I let him with no comment. We drove back into town and parked on the village green, walked and talked for at least an hour. He is smart, curious, held up his end of the coversation just fine. I mentioned that I am a unitarian universalist and he actually quoted Ralph Waldo Emerson (famous UU minister and author). I was stunned! What guy can quote Emerson???
Too much talk to detail here but we are both idealists, have unusual ideas and pursue them with lots of research and info gathering. We did find some interests in common and he said he had given up too much that he liked to do for his marriage which didn't help. We both like outdoorsy stuff and theatre. Interested in my kids but not overly interested.
When we parted he KISSED MY HAND! And I was insistent that we make plans for next weekend. He seemed pleased to do so. I'm hoping to find a play or other cultural event so we aren't just eating again. I just sent him my real email address (which revels my last name) with a message that I hope conveyed my genuine interest without being too scary.
It was not love at first sight, which is a relief because that would cloud my judgement. But it was definitely "This guy is worth more time in a lot of ways" at first sight. I won't go as far as to say I'm smitten. But I'm hoping to become so. This guy has REAL potential.

Sounds promising...but why not let *him* make the plans for the next date?
Sheri
He planned the first one in his town, this weekend he is coming to my neck of the woods. I'm going to see what is going on, then offer a few choices. He really wants to do something halloweenie, so I think we'll got to a haunted house at a local theatre that is too scary for my kids. I think he just wants me to be scared so I'll hold his hand tightly.
I've been thinking about him all day, wondering how he would fit into my life. Conclusion: he would probably fit pretty well! I'm edging closer to smitten with each passing moment.
Susie
Ah, ok, that makes sense! And I'm glad to hear you're feeling more smitten today--I wish that were the case with the guy I've been seeing, oh well (I just posted about that).
Sheri