It's only Wednesday but . . .

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Registered: 05-06-2006
It's only Wednesday but . . .
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Wed, 01-24-2007 - 10:04am

I'm getting the feeling that, for whatever reason, Sean-the-lunch-guy is going to stay "the lunch guy." He had said last week that he wanted to have dinner this week. Maybe he meant the weekend, but he sure hasn't been acting like he wants to plan a date.

He hasn't phoned since Friday, I think, and he has stopped instant messaging me every time he sees me online. It is this last that makes me think he doesn't want to go through with the date. Also, the last time we spoke he made reference to having told me a story that he hadn't told me. I said that he hadn't told me, and he said "Oh yeah, I told someone else." I am wondering if he is losing enthusiasm because he met someone else. (Through the first year of our relationship, my ex husband used to remember having done things with me which in fact he had done with the girlfriend he'd had before me.)

I'm a little disappointed, but I had my questions about our compatibility and relationship potential based on his excessive need to rest and apparent lack of interest in doing anything in the evening. So it's not exactly a surprise. I guess we will just be friends or friendly acquaintances.

Meanwhile I am talking to another guy who seems interesting, but this one has never been married (at 54!) though he says he was in a LTR that was like a marriage for 15 years. And there is a third guy who doesn't seem very promising (short and inexpressive e-mails) but I'm going to give him a chance.

It's a shame about Sean though.

Elsa

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 8:28pm
Sorry to hear about your disappointment with Sean the lunch guy. You never know, he may still call and plan a date with you so don't rule it out yet but like you said, it seems as if he's not showing you the interest and consistency like you want and deserve.
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Registered: 05-06-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 10:42pm
Yeah, he may still call. And I am connecting with one other guy who might be a good prospect also. I just find this whole thing frustrating. Sean hasn't called, e-mailed or voice-mailed, which is very different from last week, so I worry that he just isn't interested in dating.