Why would he view my profile again?
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| Wed, 01-24-2007 - 5:15pm |
So here's the dirt. I met a very nice guy on Yahoo a few weeks before Christmas and we emailed and chatted on the phone for awhile. We were planning to meet, but since it was the holidays, we didn't get around to it until late December. We had a nice date, no good night kiss, but I enjoyed him and recieved positive feedback and a "let's do it again" from him.
The problem was he was going on the annual vacation with his family about a week later, and then the next week I was traveling for business. Plus, he'd been promoted and was learning his new job. No biggie. I am not all clingy. He came back from vakay and emailed me he was home. We chatted on the phone a bit that week. I left and then came back from my business trip and emailed him and he emailed back and said we had to go get a drink together soon. We emailed up until Saturday and then nothing. He works odd shifts and is currently doing mostly afternoon-evening shifts on his job (I'm more 9-5) so I understand why he hasn't called. I'm not sure why he hasn't emailed.
Anyway, as I babble away here, Yahoo lets you see who's looked at your profile. He looked at mine late last night. Think he's forgotten who I am? I know, how do I know unless I ask him...but I'm a big believer in walking away if "he's just not that into you". So I'm kind of curious as to your thoughts. Maybe he's met someone else and he wants to see what I'm like one last time? It's beezar because the email ball has been in his court for three days and up to this time, he's been so dependable and straight forward.
Ugh. OLD is definitely for the boids!
Chick

Maybe he was deciding whether he wanted to get together with you again. Who knows???? I think wondering about this type of stuff will drive you CRAZY and that's one reason why I think having that "who's viewed you" feature is just completely stupid ;-)!
Sheri
I have gone back and looked at profiles again to remind myself of details and to get ideas about conversation starters. I think it is common to go back and look at profiles. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he forgot about you. He probably didn't want to commit the faux pas of getting your details, likes/dislikes mixed up with someone elses.
YG
YG
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Yeap, yins are right, I'm officially neurotic. I'm the Woody Allen of internet dating. But I just got the feeling that we'd really connected and then he disappears for a few days (we even text messaged while we were both out of town) so I'm kind of unsure why he has to go look me up again.
I'll keep you posted. This method of dating is barberic, but I guess it's all you've got when you are my age and work with married people...
Chick, the optimist
I like the "who's viewed you" feature a lot because it is a way of reminding someone that you are interested w/out e-mailing them. And when a guy looks at me again, I always assume he is interested. That doesn't mean he'll contact me, but clearly he's not indifferent.
I do agree that to worry about why someone looks at you is just asking to go crazy.
But in a way, it can also be really creepy when a guy keeps looking at you and showing up at the top of your "Who's Viewed Me" list. I remember when I was on Match a couple years ago, this one guy would show up near or on the top of my list every week or so. He never once contacted me but kept looking at me. I personally did not find his "interest" flattering. I found it really creepy. I finally blocked him because it ooged me out.
Also, I think that if they viewed me and didn't contact me that it was definitely a sign of DIS-interest. I dunno, I used to think it was kinda neat, but as time has gone on, I definitely see the drawbacks.
And to the OP, who cares why he was looking. As everyone said, there are a gazillion reasons why he might but thinking about them could drive you nuts.