Exclusive Dating

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Registered: 01-30-2007
Exclusive Dating
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Tue, 01-30-2007 - 7:41pm

Hi everyone - I just signed up on this site. I am a long time lurker.

I met this great guy on yahoo personels around Thanksgiving. We chatted/talked on the phone for about a month before we met in RL. We have gone out/seen each other several times. He seems to be insinuating (sp?) that we are exclusive, which is fine with me, I only like to date one man at a time and we both talked about this before.

My question is, do you actually have to have a real "discussion" about being exclusive or do you just know by actions/comments that are made.

Thank you for your advise

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:15pm

Actual discussion, no question about it. Don't make any assumptions--that's the best way for misunderstandings to occur and for one or both people involved to get hurt.

I also like to talk about what we each mean by "exclusive" to make sure we're on the same page--you'd be amazed at the range of behavior some people think is ok that I would not be ok with at all ;-).

Sheri

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 10:06pm
A talk is definitely in order. You know what they say about "assuming" - it makes an a$$ out of U and ME. Although he can insinuate until the cows come home - you should definitely talk about it. If you think you are ready, just bring it up.

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Registered: 01-30-2007
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 7:42pm

Thank you both for your advise. I will definetly have that talk.

I really don't date much, but pretty much rely on OLD when I do. I have been in two different relationships that started with online dating...One lasted 4 years (lived with him for 3 years) and then the other one ghosted on me after 8 weeks of dating, but this one seems to be different for some reason, but I will bring it up with him.

Thanks you again!