He won't tell me his name!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2006
He won't tell me his name!
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Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:45pm
What's up with that? After a number of e-mails back & forth (from match), I continually ask him his name...he doesn't respond. He asks me to dinner (I decline, and suggest a quick drink) But, he still won't tell me his name. I told him that I won't meet him w/o a name, and I haven't heard back from him. I'm fine w/this...it's just so wierd. Is he married? Famous? Just strange?
Any clues?
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Registered: 03-27-2004
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 9:14pm

Tee hee, he's not worth your time. A few years ago I went out with a man who told me his name was "Steve" (yes, he used quotation marks so to this day, I have no clue what his real name was) and his name on his email was John Doe. On our first and only date he told me he was married and had no desire to change that.

Like I said, don't waste your time. There are plenty of fruits, flakes and nuts on the web. But there are good men too, so go find one of those!

Chick

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 01-30-2007 - 10:09pm
My vote is for strange. Move on. What a moron - names are kinda important. Good grief, at least a first name. What were you supposed to do when you first met? Go up and say "Hey you!"??

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2006
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 6:53pm
Who cares? Why would you even bother with any more time on this guy? Move on.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2006
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 10:18pm
I'm curious, and I'm new to OLD, and I wondered if anyone had any experience with this sort of behavior. I didn't waste any more time on this guy.
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Registered: 06-14-2006
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 5:29pm

I have been doing OLD for about one and a half years. I haven't come across the same experience as you. When someone is being evasive and I can sniff that they are lying and being coy, I immediately do not waste time.

If he was being sincere about getting to know you, he would immediately provide his first name on the first email.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2006
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 4:28am

Lots of women have probably come across this behavior, and so have some men.

The behavior is simple- it's someone who is either cheating on their spouse or significant other, or it's someone who is so paranoid about OLD (whether because they are afraid of OLD or because they're embarrassed to be doing OLD) that they're not going to be any fun anyway.

But it's usually the first thing. They don't want to say their name until they're pretty sure you don't know their spouse or won't tell on them.