He won't tell me his name!
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He won't tell me his name!
| Tue, 01-30-2007 - 8:45pm |
What's up with that? After a number of e-mails back & forth (from match), I continually ask him his name...he doesn't respond. He asks me to dinner (I decline, and suggest a quick drink) But, he still won't tell me his name. I told him that I won't meet him w/o a name, and I haven't heard back from him. I'm fine w/this...it's just so wierd. Is he married? Famous? Just strange?
Any clues?
Any clues?

Tee hee, he's not worth your time. A few years ago I went out with a man who told me his name was "Steve" (yes, he used quotation marks so to this day, I have no clue what his real name was) and his name on his email was John Doe. On our first and only date he told me he was married and had no desire to change that.
Like I said, don't waste your time. There are plenty of fruits, flakes and nuts on the web. But there are good men too, so go find one of those!
Chick
I have been doing OLD for about one and a half years. I haven't come across the same experience as you. When someone is being evasive and I can sniff that they are lying and being coy, I immediately do not waste time.
If he was being sincere about getting to know you, he would immediately provide his first name on the first email.
Lots of women have probably come across this behavior, and so have some men.
The behavior is simple- it's someone who is either cheating on their spouse or significant other, or it's someone who is so paranoid about OLD (whether because they are afraid of OLD or because they're embarrassed to be doing OLD) that they're not going to be any fun anyway.
But it's usually the first thing. They don't want to say their name until they're pretty sure you don't know their spouse or won't tell on them.