a RULE? guys online MUST be flakes!?
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| Thu, 02-01-2007 - 2:14am |
*KINDA LONG!*
So I am finally starting to get over my ex who left me a year and 1/2 ago - yes you read me right!
My huge concern was that no one would ever compare to him and boy was I right!
New school, new house, new job and nothing. I went online as I often do and here is what I found :
Harrison : we talk online, he acts like he's the $hit, we go on a date, he's SO SWEET, he acts like he doesnt want the date to end, we talk online and everytime wedo, he acts like he's amazing. I call him, he's acting like he's too important to talk to me, I hang up, he calls back later leaving a msg asking if I'm ok and he wants to see me, I call back saying no then felt bad later (like an idiot!) and emailed him, he never replied.
Brian : we talk on msn for about a week, he acts enthralled with me, never asks me out. I mention meeting up after 2 wks or so and he says he's "feeling it out"?? Then everytime I msg him after that (like 3 x in 2 wks) he replies an hr later with " sorry I missed you, Im off to bed" I finally replied last nite with " seems like you're always off to bed so nice meeting you but now we never have to talk again!"
Spence: really cute, smart, etc and we only talked thru emails. He asked me out in dec and i was away on vacation so I wrote back saying we'd have to raincheck. I wrote him a few nights ago and said " did you still want to meet up?" he said " sure! im wide open this week- you pick the day and time" I wrote back saying " is sunday at 4 good for you?" It's been 3 days and he hasn't written back (when usally he writes back the same night)
Billy: writes me saying how much he likes my post etc etc, we send 2 or 3 emails, then I sent a second photo and no reply...I saw his myspace tonight and he has a gf.
I just don't get it. I've dated LOTSSSS of guys before but since my ex it seems like Im a magnet for losers. And I know I'm not giving off that " get away from me"vibe cos I have done that before and this isnt it. I guess I'm just venting. Can anyone relate??

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Can I relate? Oh yes. I've sooooo been there.
I don't know what's happened with the dating world as of late, but things are definitely strange. I finally had a date with someone I met on CL a few weeks ago, but I tell you what, I just never count on things panning out anymore. Incidentally, he seems like a nice guy- but I can't help but be cautious. Enjoy it for what it's worth...
It also doesn't seem to matter if you meet on a paying site either. You still get men who want to email for an eternity, never solidify a date, or follow through despite their profiles claiming otherwise.
What can I say. There are lots of boneheads out there.
Oh yeah, most definitely. I go into each situation with an open mind, but honestly don't expect things to pan out anymore. Maybe it's because there are so many dating sites out there, ID has become little more than a big ol' meat market.
Personally, I'm nearing burn-out and am ready to take a sabbatical of sorts. Who knows? Maybe, just maybe I'll meet someone nice the old-fashioned way.
~H
I'm officially DONE.
O I know that feeling. I just started dating after a 20 year really bad marriage. I spent the last three years picking up my world. And I must have a sign that say CALLING ALL LOSER AND USERS. on my back. I am very careful with this whole on line dating. But the problem is they sound so nice in the emails and then nice on the phone but go out with them ( if they last) a couple of times and the real butt comes out.
I just don't understand guys. And we are not talking in their 20s either. The last guy was 45 and he acted like he was not over 25. What happen to good guys. Guys who know how to treat woman?
I am not a booty call or one night stand and would like to get to know ya. But these guys act like ok , lets see how fast we can on to the next. I agree with the meat market comment too. :-). Lets just hope one day we will find someone to make us happy. Take care all.
Lets just hope one day we will find someone to make us happy.
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Girl, life is too short! I'm not waiting on any man to make me happy. I'm already there! Sure, I have my ups and downs just like anyone else, but I refuse to wait on some man to "complete me" or make me happy. If one never comes or I never marry again, I know I'll be just fine because I'm livin' and lovin' life now. Tomorrow isn't promised for any of us. Right now is all we have.
~H
I'm sure at one point you weren't so content with just having your wonderful self.
I posted this not because I NEED man but because when I finally decide to settle down, I don't want it to be with someone who's a jerkoff.
One thing that struck me about your posting is that you are still using your ex as the standard to measure any guy against. You also said that he left you. So you are comparing the men you are meeting-talking to now with a man who left you. I believe that plays a role in how you are viewing men now and what sorts that you are attracting and being attracted by you.
Mark
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