Some Guys Online Can't Spell!

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Some Guys Online Can't Spell!
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Sat, 02-03-2007 - 10:17am

Hi! I know I've seen someone else on here post about this very same thing and I'm going to bring it up again, because I just can't believe how awful some of the guys spell, especially on e-Harmony. Yes, I may even spell a word wrong in this post, but you better believe if I want to impress someone online, I'm going to check all my spelling. On e-Harmony if they can't even capitalize the first letter of their name, then I'm really not too interested. And then when I start reading the profiles on e-Harmony half the words in their profiles are spelled wrong.

Does anyone else get really turned off by this? To me it says a guy isn't really trying to put his best foot forward and just expects you to write him, even though he doesn't care if his profile makes sense.

I know I'm probably being too picky, but was curious to see what everyone else thinks.

Thanks!

Michelle

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 10:35am

Goodness yes, it is a HUGE turnoff to read a response from someone who:

Can't spell even elementary words.
Has no grasp of grammar.
Or doesn't use punctuation - at all! The entire paragraph is a run-on!

I also love it when the guys write in ALL CAPS!

To me it comes across as lazy and/or unintelligent. Neither of which I'm going to be attracted to.

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Registered: 10-13-2005
Sat, 02-03-2007 - 11:32am

I have to agree with all of this. My spelling isn't that great, but I try with grammar and punctuation at least. It does seem to show that a guy isn't really trying that hard, is rather lazy or just wants to see what kind of work you will go through for him.

One guy I am emailling right now is like this and it is a HUGE turn off. I can hardly read the emails will the lack of punctuation. I get lost in them an not in a good way.

Mary

Mary

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Registered: 02-10-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 10:51pm
I'm sure glad to know that I'm not the only one that feels this way. I definitely agree that bad spelling is a deal breaker for me. And if the guy can't even capitalize his name, it shows a lack of respect and pride for himself.
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 10:55pm

It's like, copy and paste what you say into Microsoft Word and run spell checker before you post it on a profile.

NOT THAT HARD!!!

Pink

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 1:26am

I once got a match on eHarmony---they're supposed to make sure you match on their 31 dimensions of compatibility---or at least match most of those dimensions. One of the dimensions is intelligence. I even put intelligence as one of my "must haves" because I do need a partner with whom I can share lively, intelligent discussions.

One of my matches from eHarmony; bless his fuzzy little heart, he said his favorite book was "The DeVinchy Code".

Next!

Moogie

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 9:26am
Whe will they learn to spell separate correctly?????
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Registered: 05-06-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:31am

I'm very picky about spelling, but I don't really care if a person capitalizes names or not in an e-mail or other informal communication. Some spelling errors also don't bother me in e-mail though they would bother me in the profile.

Elsa

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:34am

Bad spelling is not a mark of lack of intelligence--only of ignorance or carelessness. And a lot of good spellers are not very bright.

But I agree that the e-harmony matches are a joke.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:58am

Thanks for all the feedback! And, yes, to the last poster, the e-harmony matches are a joke! I will never do e-harmony again after trying about three different times for just a month at a time. I have noticed e-harmony is the place where I notice the spelling mistakes the most simply because the format they have their profiles set up in makes me notice mistakes more.

On another note, the reason I won't join e-harmony again is because the matches are just not of the high quality like they claim and make you pay a ton of money for because they claim this. I also noticed last month that what they did is send me "flexible matches" once they couldn't find me any true matches. Some of the "flexible matches" were very questionable and I felt like I kept getting them as a way to get me to subscribe again since I was receiving matches.

I have only met two guys in person from e-harmony and they turned out to be jerks. I highly suggest match.com, yahoo personals, or something more like that if you want to try online dating. These sites are a lot cheaper and you actually get to see a picture of the person up front.

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:26am
I have a good friend who met his wife on EHarmony, though. I think anything CAN work.

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