Some Guys Online Can't Spell!
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| Sat, 02-03-2007 - 10:17am |
Hi! I know I've seen someone else on here post about this very same thing and I'm going to bring it up again, because I just can't believe how awful some of the guys spell, especially on e-Harmony. Yes, I may even spell a word wrong in this post, but you better believe if I want to impress someone online, I'm going to check all my spelling. On e-Harmony if they can't even capitalize the first letter of their name, then I'm really not too interested. And then when I start reading the profiles on e-Harmony half the words in their profiles are spelled wrong.
Does anyone else get really turned off by this? To me it says a guy isn't really trying to put his best foot forward and just expects you to write him, even though he doesn't care if his profile makes sense.
I know I'm probably being too picky, but was curious to see what everyone else thinks.
Thanks!
Michelle

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Goodness yes, it is a HUGE turnoff to read a response from someone who:
Can't spell even elementary words.
Has no grasp of grammar.
Or doesn't use punctuation - at all! The entire paragraph is a run-on!
I also love it when the guys write in ALL CAPS!
To me it comes across as lazy and/or unintelligent. Neither of which I'm going to be attracted to.
I have to agree with all of this. My spelling isn't that great, but I try with grammar and punctuation at least. It does seem to show that a guy isn't really trying that hard, is rather lazy or just wants to see what kind of work you will go through for him.
One guy I am emailling right now is like this and it is a HUGE turn off. I can hardly read the emails will the lack of punctuation. I get lost in them an not in a good way.
Mary
Mary
It's like, copy and paste what you say into Microsoft Word and run spell checker before you post it on a profile.
NOT THAT HARD!!!
Pink
I once got a match on eHarmony---they're supposed to make sure you match on their 31 dimensions of compatibility---or at least match most of those dimensions. One of the dimensions is intelligence. I even put intelligence as one of my "must haves" because I do need a partner with whom I can share lively, intelligent discussions.
One of my matches from eHarmony; bless his fuzzy little heart, he said his favorite book was "The DeVinchy Code".
Next!
Moogie
I'm very picky about spelling, but I don't really care if a person capitalizes names or not in an e-mail or other informal communication. Some spelling errors also don't bother me in e-mail though they would bother me in the profile.
Elsa
Bad spelling is not a mark of lack of intelligence--only of ignorance or carelessness. And a lot of good spellers are not very bright.
But I agree that the e-harmony matches are a joke.
Thanks for all the feedback! And, yes, to the last poster, the e-harmony matches are a joke! I will never do e-harmony again after trying about three different times for just a month at a time. I have noticed e-harmony is the place where I notice the spelling mistakes the most simply because the format they have their profiles set up in makes me notice mistakes more.
On another note, the reason I won't join e-harmony again is because the matches are just not of the high quality like they claim and make you pay a ton of money for because they claim this. I also noticed last month that what they did is send me "flexible matches" once they couldn't find me any true matches. Some of the "flexible matches" were very questionable and I felt like I kept getting them as a way to get me to subscribe again since I was receiving matches.
I have only met two guys in person from e-harmony and they turned out to be jerks. I highly suggest match.com, yahoo personals, or something more like that if you want to try online dating. These sites are a lot cheaper and you actually get to see a picture of the person up front.
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