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| Sat, 02-03-2007 - 10:46am |
Hi,
I'm pretty new to OLD so I can't figure something out on match. I keep my profile hidden but when I want to email or wink at someone can they see my profile to find out more about me? I tried it on myself just to see, but it said profile unavailable.
Also, guys seem to tell me they want to get on the phone & send me their number after the first email. Is that normal? Maybe I'm different, but I'd rather find out a little bit more before I get on the phone with someone I don't know much about...what is there to talk about?
Carol

No, they cannot see your profile if you have it hidden even if you send them a wink. At least I'm almost 100% sure that's the way it works. I've had people send me winks and emails and then hide their profile and it tells me that the profile is no longer available. We can try it out if you want! Hehe - we used to do Match experiments out here with emails and winks and the "courtesy replies". Let me know if you'd like to try to send a wink (I am a girl so if you feel weird - I understand! ;-)) but in the name of knowledge!
And yes, it is common for guys to want to move offline relatively quickly. Not all guys do it, but it's been my experience that it's not uncommon at all. If you're more comfortable spending more time online, that's fine too - send a reply of "Thanks for the number. I like to get to know someone a little better before moving to the phone so I'd like to exchange a couple more emails first." But honestly, don't talk online too long. Talking online can build a false sense of familiarity and intimacy that may not translate into real life. I think anywhere from 3-5 email exchanges is OK before moving to the phone and then maybe a couple phone calls before meeting in person. As for what there is to talk about - you'd talk about the same things you'd email about of course! Why not have a real conversation instead of exchanging endless emails??