Yikes! So much for that pilot on Match!

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Yikes! So much for that pilot on Match!
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 9:44pm

Not sure if you guys remember a few weeks ago I began talking with this guy on Match - who was a pilot. & miricale of miricales, he

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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 10:40pm

My friend from my Men's Group ran into this woman off Match he was going to meet later that week. They were both out of their hood and he was at this bookstore killing time because another woman he was going to meet off Match canceled on him. Serendipidty don't you think? So it turned out he married her and they are on their third year of marriage now.

So what is wrong with emailing him and telling him why you ran out on him? I for one would like to know otherwise I would make up a story that you just did not like me after meeting me in person.

Mark

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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 10:51pm

Wow! Thats a cool story Mark!


I didnt really "run out on him though". We were in the middle of Walmart, his kids staring at us ... not a heck of a lot to say & slightly taken off balance by running into eachother ... never MIND looking like it did! lol


But youre right, maybe i should drop him a line saying "Sorry to cut our chance meeting so short, lol,

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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 11:20am
So what is up with Carlos? Are you still seeing him? Had the "talk" yet???? I'm curious.
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 11:33am

Good question, lol.

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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 12:23pm
Hi rlch
Hopefully you don't mind me commenting on the Carlos situation ;-)
Read your update and I think it's good that you guys have at least touched on the subject and you kind of know where he stands. It seems like he has a lot of fears from past experiences and doesn't want to repeat what happened before. I think this is the main reason why he's doubting making it exclusive. Maybe if you were to tell him your wants and needs and then talk about his fears a little more and how you can make it easier for him/more comfortable for him with your situation with your ex. These are pretty valid fears but I think that it's something that can be worked out because of the way you guys feel around each other. But, he needs to be willing to take that leap regardless of the fear, or risk losing you because you can't go forever with this casual relationship. I think telling him where you stand and that you want more for sure or else you really can't do this too much longer is a good thing. The only thing I would be concerned about is if he doesn't decide to make it exclusive that hanging out with him just a little bit less would probably hurt you and you would still get more attached and the same patterns will start happening. Unfortunately the best but toughest thing to do if he doesn't see himself being exclusive with you, is to make a clean break because it will cause you more pain to continue to hang out with him. Just needed to give my two-cents a bit, hopefully you don't mind.
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 12:49pm
BTW, I really liked the pics that you posted. Carlos is a handsome guy and you guys look good together.
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 5:46pm
I would send an email saying something like...Boy it was great to finally meet you in person, your kids are adorable. See if he emails back on that note... You are a beautiful woman in sweats or dressed up and if he is that shallow, your better off without him...I am sure he will answer...good luck!
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 9:39pm
Thanks!

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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 9:52pm

Ok, i ended up e'ing the pilot guy last nite. I figured, "maybe he thinks i didnt like HIM, & thats why *I* didnt E & say anything".

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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:56pm
The pilot sounds super-nice and into you -- give him a chance. Good luck with Carlos too -- sounds like you may well have a choice of men!

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