OK Cupid

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Registered: 07-20-2001
OK Cupid
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:24am
I checked out the okcupid web site and have never seen so many guys who want friends with benefits or just sex partners! Mercy what a shock to see so many decent looking guys who actually are trying to cheat on their wives or girlfriends. I think I need to stay away from that site, but another poster mentioned it, so I checked it out. What a let down. :0
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Registered: 01-21-2005
In reply to: mitsy2
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 1:32pm

I had to throw in my two cents about OK Cupid...

I totally had and have the same impression of that site that you do, it seems to be bursting at the seams with guys looking to cheat or just hook up. Gross. However, I put a profile up on there anyway (since it was free and all), and although it certainly took some time, I actually got some decent responses. I've met a total of 4 guys using OK Cupid over a span of probably 2 1/2 years (not a lot, I know). Of those 4 guys, two of them I am still friends with now, one I dated 4 times and then stopped seeing, and the last guy is my current bf.

So I guess my point is that I don't see any harm in putting a profile on there and checking in once in awhile... you never know, right? I think that although the nasty cheater types appear to be the most talkative on that site, there are some nice guys that are just shy on there. My bf is a nerd, sure, but he treats me better than anyone I've ever dated, so I definitely owe OK Cupid for that.

Anyway, to each his own... I just wanted to share that I definitely had the same first impression as you, but it worked out really well for me anyway. Good luck!

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Registered: 05-06-2006
In reply to: mitsy2
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:10pm

I may be the person who mentioned OKCupid, but I think I said I enjoyed the questions and the blogs, not the guys. ;) There are relatively few guys (or gals) in my age bracket on OK Cupid, so I didn't think of it so much of a dating site as just an amusing place to visit. I like the concept, and I think if they sell it after they get the kinks out of it, the quality of online matches will improve. (The concept is that people get matched picked on their answers to questions they choose. It's really very clever.)

I haven't met any guys for dating on OK Cupid, but I have had some great conversations with guys who IM me while I am on the site. As someone who can be pretty snobby about guys who can't spell, guys who only want to talk about NASCAR, etc. I have found the average guy who has contacted me on OK Cupid much above the average guy who has contacted me on Yahoo or Match.

It may be different if you are younger and post your picture. I am 51, I don't have a picture on my profile, and I list myself as wanting "friends" (not relationships or anything like that), so that may help protect me from the ruder people.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: mitsy2
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 10:38pm

I asked someone with a very nice profile who had checked 'sex partners' if he were seeking casual sex, and he said no.