Question about Questions....

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Question about Questions....
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 6:39pm

In general...

When you email a guy and they answer your questions you asked about them, but they don't ask questions back about you, is that a sign that they're "just not that into you?"

If they thank you for the email and say it was great to hear from you, but they don't ask any follow up questions about you... is that some sort of "read between the lines OLD lingo" that I should be informed of?

Just curious!

Gracias!
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 7:33pm

Could be, or it could be a sign that they are lazy or self-absorbed or clueless about how the whole thing is supposed to work, or any number of other things.

Sheri

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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 8:29pm

How nice. :S :OP

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 8:35pm

So I'm wondering...

Is it smart to just let these guys go, or keep asking them questions to keep the communication going?

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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 9:21pm
I would probably give it one more try after the initial response. After all, he did respond. It isn't always easy to come up with something good to use to open conversation. So a second message with a question and if you still get a short answer with no room to follow-up, then wait and see if he's interested enough to write again.
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Fri, 02-09-2007 - 8:44am
I don't know about "smart" but what I do is tell them a little about myself even when they don't answer questions and invite them to ask me more questions. If they answer my questions too briefly and they say "Uh, I don't know, what is your favorite food" when I ask them to ask me a question, I tend to let the conversation go. The few times I've not, I've regreted it.
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Registered: 05-28-2006
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 1:56am

Look, we're guys. Most of us aren't nearly as good at conversation and talking as women are.

The way you put it, though, it sounds like you emailed him first. He knows you're interested now (otherwise, why else would you email him?) so you don't have to do anything else. If he's into you, he'll ask you out; if he's not, he won't.

Either way you don't have to worry about it.

I think he was just being polite. If he didn't ask you out or at least try, even in a guy-lousy-conversation way, to keep contact going, then he's not into you and you should move on.