"Mutual Match"

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"Mutual Match"
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Wed, 02-14-2007 - 8:59pm
On match there's the mutual match thing. Anyway, there's one guy that is 100%- I guess that means for both of us.
I winked at him a few days ago, saw that he looked at me, but hasn't responded. Now it says he's been off for 3 days. He just sounds too good to be true...is it ok to send him an email or should I scratch him & move on??
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 9:13pm
I'd send him an email....I wasn't sending any emails through online dating sites, but all of the men that were contacting me were not was I was looking for, so I started contacting them and it's working much better. I would just send a short email. Plus, I tend to respond to emails and not always to winks. An email gets more notice.
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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:12pm
Thanks for your input! I winked at him 4 days ago & he hasn't been online since I saw that he checked me out. Do you think it's too soon to send him an email? Wow, I sure feel immature for my 47 years old but this guy sounds great!
Thanks again,
Carol
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:32pm

My feeling is that if someone views my profile and doesn't contact me, he's either not interested or not a paying member, so emailing him wouldn't do any good.

Sheri

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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 8:58pm

Sheri - can someone have a profile with a pic, & STILL not be a paying member on Match? Like you see all these guys, with pics & profiles, view you - but you dont hear from them. Does that mean its b/c they cant contact you (well, maybe, lol ... who really knows WHY ..) but i didnt realize that works that way?


& to the OP, I woudl just send an emial ... once ... it cant hurt. R~

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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 10:13pm

Absolutely. You can have the full profile and still not be a paying member.

To the OP, I'm with Sheri. If a guy has received my wink, looked at me and not responded, I would not send another email. I would assume he's not interested or CAN'T respond because he is not a paying member. It wouldn't hurt to try, but I wouldn't count on a response.

Just because you are a 100% on Match's criteria doesn't necessarily mean that the other person will be interested. They do the matchng based on those multiple choice questions you answer and your preferences where you list them as "Absolutely", "Somewhat", "Not Very". All it means is when someone is a 100% match is that they fall into all your categories. It may also mean you fall into theirs, but I'm not positive on that one. Regardless, just because you match up on those categories, doesn't ensure a good match nor does it ensure mutual interest.

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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 11:24pm

Oh, sure you can have a full profile and not be a paying member! I used to pay for a month at a time and then kind of "collect" people I was interested in contacting for a couple-few months then join again for a month. Although I'm sure there are some people who just never pay--it used to be, you could at least sneak your email address into an email to them, but now there's really no way to get in touch with non-paying members.

Sheri

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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 10:33pm

I think it's ALWAYS okay for a girl to email a guy.

She shouldn't ask him out, but by emailing (as opposed to just winking) she's letting him know that she finds him at least somewhat attractive and that she's open to communicating with him.

So email him, and if he answers, cool; if not, move on.

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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 10:49pm
Guess What!!! I did send him an email & he responded a few days later (Feb 21) & since then we've been emailing long messages every day & today he asked when we can get together. He sounds like he's even more interested than me so keep your fingers crossed. Thank you everyone who helped me decide & I'll let you know if things go as well as we both hope!!
Carol
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Sun, 02-25-2007 - 12:53am
Yey!

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