2 dates & no kissing???

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Registered: 11-22-2005
2 dates & no kissing???
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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 8:34am

Hi Girls,

I have a question, I went out with the guy two times, he claims hes attracted to me, however, he only gives me a quick kiss on cheek or lips, maybe its just me, but I'm soo use to meeting guys and they at least try to kiss me on the 2nd date...I'm just concerned if he has intimacy issues or is this normal??

Thanks,

Char

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Registered: 12-13-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 8:43am

He could just be taking it slow.

I told myself that with D a few years ago . . . let's see - - first date = drinks . . 2nd date he took me to dinner then back to my house (my suggestion) to watch a movie . . . . third date I took him to movie then back to my place to burn a cd and have a few drinks.

He didn't once try to touch me (hand holding) let alone kiss . . .

I can't even remember if we had a fourth date . . . the guy vanished . . . but had been consistently phoning me etc and "acting" interested and shy right until the puff of smoke enveloped him . . .

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Registered: 01-21-2005
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:53am

I wouldn't necessarily freak out about that, he could just be nervous/shy/trying to be a gentleman. Just some food for thought, but my current bf did not lay a hand on me until our 4th date! Not even to hold my hand! I was starting to think maybe he wasn't interested in me, but we had a good time and he kept asking me out, so I kept going.

He had plenty of chances to do it too: 1st date dinner and a 2 hour walk by the beach, 2nd date dinner and came back to my place and just talked, 3rd date we made dinner at my place and then saw the 4th of July fireworks (that's right, laying down on a blanket outside for more than 3 hours!). Finally on our fourth date, dinner and a movie, he did it. We have been together for 8 months tomorrow and he is definitely attracted to me and is a completely genuine guy.

I know how you feel, it seems weird when a guy isn't all over you during the first few dates... but then I thought to myself, how awful is it that I completely expect a guy to try and pull some sort of fast move on me before he even gets to know me?! I love that my current bf got to know me (at least a little) before things became physical. We waited what is probably considered a long time now (a little over 2 months), but I think it was worth it.

Anyway, that's just my two cents... maybe you can give him the benefit of the doubt and see what happens? Good luck!

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 10:05am
Thank you for taking time out to respond to me, I think your 100% right & I will give him some more time - Thanks again!!
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Registered: 12-13-2006
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 3:48pm
It's perfectly normal. My boyfriend didn't fully kiss me on the lips until about a month of going on dates/dating. He wanted to take it slow, where in my head i was all thinking, okay just kiss me already.. because i had been so used to that; however, i'm glad he waited because as we started hanging out more and got acquainted, I become more comfortable with him. Dont worry girl!