Anyone else ever feel this way?

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Anyone else ever feel this way?
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 3:02pm

I've been going out with this guy C. I met on CL for a couple of weeks now. We have been on about 5-6 dates and I honestly am quite enamored with him. Things have been going awesome! I really, really like him and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. He has told me several times that he likes me a lot and he calls me almost every day and is always asking when he can see me again. He lives a mile away from me so it is pretty darn convienient. He hasn't pressured me to get physical yet though we have done a lot of making out and I'm pretty excited that he isn't like a lot of other guys that seem to push for that right away. I honestly truely feel that he wants to get to know me.

Here's where my question comes in... I have also gone out with J. (aka Mr. Rich as I like to call him since he seems to be "in the money"). We have only gone on one date because he has been traveling for work the last 2 weeks. He seems pretty interested in me and actually called and emailed me while he was on his trip. He has asked me out for tomorrow night and I agreed, but now I'm feeling sorta guilty for going out with him when I really, really like C. C. and I don't have an exclusivity agreement yet so I do plan to still go out with J. C. knows I'm dating other people even though I haven't discussed any details with him about it, but I just feel wierd about it all. Up until now, I had no problem going out with more than one guy but this one is just different. I haven't felt this excited by someone since my ex. I did have a short 1 month thing back in December with the cop guy who I thought I liked, but that relationship doesn't even compare to the one I have with C. right now so I didn't really have any guilty feelings or issues going out with other people.

J. seems pretty cool, so I feel like I should at least give him a chance, but I don't know how I'm going to go out with him when all I can think about is C. Has anyone else had to deal with this in dating? How do you do it? I want to try and have a good time and get to know J. but I'm afraid I won't give him a fair chance because of how I feel about C. Seriously, things have been going so well with C. right now I don't want to do anything to screw it up. I'm afraid that something will wreck it all, anything... not just the fact that I'm going out with others. It's that whole "things can't be going this well so something will probably screw it up" feeling. Can you tell I've been burned too many times! LOL