Googled my guy...

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Registered: 08-20-2006
Googled my guy...
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Fri, 02-23-2007 - 2:06am
I just googled this guy that I have met from match.com and have been dating for the past couple of months. He seems fairly normal but... I found out that he's a member of swappernet.. this swingers website! Swinging is definintely not something I'm comfortable with... am I suppose to bring this up to him? Not sure what to do???
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Fri, 02-23-2007 - 2:46am

That would be a "see ya" for me. I'd just send him an email letting him know it's obvious the two of you have different values and you feel it's best to end things. I don't really see the point of bringing something like that up--what will that change? Either you're ok with someone who would post a profile on a site like that or you're not.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 5:32am
Why even bring it up? If you were in a relationship, yes. But for a virtually stranger? No. Then you'll get into this situation where he's telling you one thing, you're seeing something each and you're caught up in which way to go. You found out some truth, so just let him know that you don't think you're a good match and leave it at that.
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 5:03pm

ITA with the other posters.

Be grateful that you found this out before investing more time and energy in trying to develop something worthwhile.

Good luck!
~H




Edited 2/23/2007 5:50 pm ET by heymum
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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 1:37am
I agree with you all... I'm not going to bring it up and, seeing that it's kind of obvious that we have different interests, am not going to see him anymore. I guess I'm just shocked becuase I didn't think he was the type... googling your date seem so cliche.. but its probably going to be a prerequsite for all the guys I date from now on! lol
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Registered: 05-28-2006
Sat, 02-24-2007 - 3:27am
How do you know it's him?