Ok ladies...I messed up...AGAIN!!

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Ok ladies...I messed up...AGAIN!!
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Mon, 02-26-2007 - 3:06pm
so me and mr. 8 yrs younger than me....everything was great. I have posted baout him before. He's a police officer which is what I am working towards as well. Anyway he started another shift and b/c he's working I don't really get to talk to him let alone see him.We were going to try on the weekend before he went to work but he was too tired (which I understand) but he said he would call me Sunday when got up...did he? No. BTW, he's 26, I'm 34. I sent him a text later in the day.... just saying hi. Basically I htink he's lost interest. Why? Because somewhere I think he has lost interest in me and now I have sent him a few texts asking about the weekend (he's not working) etc. ANd i am either get very simple answers or nothing at all. Is he being a 26 yr old male, or have I blown it? Should I "give up" b/c he's 26...?Argh...THIS is why I hate dating!!!!
incl
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Registered: 11-08-2003
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:44pm
I wouldn't say you've blown it because that implies you've done something wrong but it does sound like he's lost interest. Why not just sit tight and wait a few days and see if you hear from him. If not, move on.
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 7:48pm
UGH! Do you think he lost interest because of my intense texting? :(
incl
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Registered: 05-28-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:00am
You're right. He's lost interest. Quit stressing- it happens. Move on. And don't sweat the details- just be yourself at all times. Being anything else is too much work. :)
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 5:50am
Stop blaming yourself. Who knows why he lost interest? It sounds like he did before you texted. If a person does not keep their word to call when they say they will, that's not a person who wants anything serious. It sounds like you like this guy and because of that, I would move on. Keep it friendly but professional. And don't blame yourself.
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 8:37am
Thanks for your input ladies...I guess I'm struggling with how can someone say they are "in to" you and like hanging out with you one day and then not be the next? It doesn't make sense...I have deledted his number from my cell in case I get a big urge to text him or something...never memorized it...dating bites! :(
incl
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:17am

Dating can stink but remember why you're dating--it's like shopping for a pair of shoes, you're looking to find the right fit. I think we (as women) make the mistake at times that we look at every guy as a potential husband when really we should just be looking at them and see if they fit correctly. Sometimes I find we also run after men when it's clear they are not that interested, but somehow we think that will change.


I am coming to believe that if the person is meant to be in your life, it will happen despite the circumstances.

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:25am
Thanks. The ironic part is, up until I met him I was very casual about dating (in these past few months anyway). But after meeting him and hitting it off, I have wanted to see him all the time. Could it be the "thrill of the chase"? ARGH! Definitely hard I tell ya! :(
incl