Profile Feedback Please

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Profile Feedback Please
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:34pm

Hi Everyone,

I've just gotten back into the OLD and would be interested in any constructive feedback you might have on might match profile. My match name is . I think I've seen people post on here before looking for feedback on their profiles, so I am hoping you all might have some advice for me.

My profile is actually close to 4 years old. I was fortunate enough to meet my ex through OLD, we dated for 3.5 years and now it over (well, has been since September) and I am not trying to move forward.

I mostly receive winks and e-mails from men that I am not interested in at all. I am hoping to find someone who is highly educated, witty, kind hearted and not a commitment-phobe . . . I know, lots of luck to me on the last one. :) Uggh.

I have my first date this time around tomorrow for dinner. He suggested coffee, and I said, honestly, I don't think coffee is the best . . . I think people need more time on a first date than just coffee, although I think many of you will disagree with me on that point. So, it's dinner tomorrow night. I am hopeful, but really need to temper my expectations as you all say. At the very least, I am sure we will both have a nice evening, because he is quite witty as am I.

Wish me luck!




Edited 4/16/2007 1:42 pm ET by lil_lil_kitty
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:11pm

I just checked it so if you see a woman listed under your who's viewed me (blueyedgrly), then you know why~lol! I think what you wrote is great but why did you leave out the section about your favorites, last read, etc....things like that sometimes spark an interest in other people. Aside from that it seems fine to me.

Good luck with your date this weekend!!!! I'm in the same boat as you in that I ended a relationship recently and have just started up with OLD again. I also get contacted by men that aren't really of much interest to me but I've been a bit more proactive lately and have been sending out my fair share of winks and e-mails. have been corresponding with a few people~we sahll see!!!

~Dani~

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 12:04am

Hey Kitty,
A couple of comments.
1. attributes is spelled wrong.

2. Most guys would just look at the photo and not much else however your profile about yourself is fairly sparse.

3. What makes you unique? If you are funny and make people laugh then give an example, e.g. I once made my best friend snort milk out of her nose when I ...

4. If you are nice, sweet and caring then how are you nice, sweet and caring? Use an example on how you were that to the last man you dated/were with.

5. My common complaint with most profiles applies to your's as well... Everyone wants someone smart, caring, kind and honest as well as saying the chemistry thing. I think it would be good if you also give an example what a caring man acts like or what kind looks like to you.

Mark

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Registered: 05-28-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:57am

I agree with Mark. Us guys, we *are* visual so the picture is a big deal. You have a nice picture but could use another one or two. And I'd fill in a few more sections; the reason they're on there is to try and get people talking a little bit about what makes them different, like Mark said.

I mean, no woman puts up an ad saying "I'd like to meet a jerk who'll ignore me, demand sex at inconvenient times, take money from my purse, and hit on my friends." ;)

It's not a BAD ad; but it's not a jump-off-the-screen ad, either. You have pretty eyes; post another couple of pictures with those big soft brown eyes and you'll have it made.

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 6:42pm

I thought it looked good! I would suggest another photo or two, to show you a little more dressed-up (black top?) Your picture is great, but it's informal, and I think black would look great with your coloring. Also, you say come smile... and it would be good to have a teeth shot so men can see a bigger smile. I would change your answer on politics to "middle of the road" or no answer and vegetarian to "keeping it healty". Honestly, when I did that to mine I got so many more responses. I'm also not sure if you should mention that you have pets. I don't mean all of this as "lying", but if Mr. Right has a momentary bad response to one thing you've said, it could mean the difference between contact and none.

I hope this is helpful (not that I feel I'm one to talk), but you seem like a great person and good catch for the right person!

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 9:25pm

Hey Lil Kitty!

Remember me from "Breaking Up..." ? Anyway, your pic is adorable. The only thing I would add is a few more pics and some more text.

Good luck. Isn't OLD crazy?????

Gal B
PS-My profile is on Match, too. My user name is Crystal2342

Gal Blondie