To Thank or Not to Thank
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| Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:38am |
So, I had a date last night, nice, we had dinner at a nice restaurant, but there was notably no spark, and I do not think I would like to see this guy again. At the same time, he did pay for my dinner (which makes me feel slightly awkward) and he is a nice guy. I think it would be polite to send a quick e-mail thanking him for dinner and for the nice evening. Because I do not want my e-mail to be interpreted as "interest", I have been advised to indicate that I am not interested by concluding with something like - I don't think we are a match or some such thing, which of course leads me to believe it would be just as nice to say nothing at all and not send a thank you.
I realize this all sounds overly-analytical, and this is one of the things I hate about dating, which I am now perpetuating here, but I'm just curious what you all do?

I hope this doesn't sound rude, but gosh, didn't you say "thank you" last night when he paid or at least when you said goodnight? If you forgot, then yes, you should write to him and apologize for your oversight in not thanking him and then go on to say that while you appreciated his thoughtfulness (or whatever), you don't think the two of you are a match.
But if you thanked him last night, then there's no need for anything further.
Sheri
I figured you probably had ;-).
Sheri