Would this be considered online dating?

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Registered: 03-02-2007
Would this be considered online dating?
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Fri, 03-02-2007 - 11:40am

I met a guy on myspace. We have been communicating through IM's and myspace for 4 months now. We have never spoke on the phone, but we have talked about meeting soon. He only lives an hour from me, so it wouldn't be that hard for us to meet up. I think I'm starting to have feelings for this man. He has told me that he has alot of anger and pain in his life, and the more we talk, the more I'm slowly changing that. He also said that I'm the one he wants by his side. I think we made a true connection.

Is this considered online dating? I've never talked to a guy on the computer before, so this is all new to me. I wasn't even looking for anybody on myspace, it just kinda happened, but I'm glad it did....he makes me feel good, and he puts a smile on my face.

What does online dating consist of?

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:41pm
In my opinion, it would be considered on-line dating if/when you start dating. Right now you are communicating with someone who has told you he has a lot of anger. Please be really, really careful. I would never meet someone who told me that. Hopefully he is getting help for this?
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Registered: 03-02-2007
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:47pm
I don't know if he's getting help for it, but I assume the anger/pain comes from his daughter having cancer. Also last year he lost his nephew to cancer as well.
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Registered: 12-27-2006
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 3:57pm
Boy, do I feel like a jerk--sorry, I guess I've heard not great things about myspace, I assumed it was a "bad" kind of anger. However, my rule for OLD is that after a week or two (at most) I should meet someone with whom I've been communicating. I also do not reveal a lot of personal stuff--negative and positive--because I am not 100% sure they are who they say they are. If they don't initiate a meeting, I start not responsing to their messages. I would try to be wary of getting attached to someone before meeting them, because you may not attracted to them in person. It's too bad, but it happens. I guess I would meet him asap (in a public place), and see if there's chemistry--otherwise you and he could be wasting time and energy. And, yes, I think if you start dating him it would be considered OLD since you met him on-line.