The Kid has called

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Registered: 03-01-2007
The Kid has called
Thu, 03-08-2007 - 1:30pm

I heard from The Kid last night, it had only been 2 days since the day at the beach and we left it with an "I'll give you a call". Since I had been answering Yahoo emails and had 'met' a guy more my age, exchanged a few emails and I'ms, and was about to move to the phone stage, I was not really sure if I wanted The Kid to call or not.
Although our day at the beach was lots of fun, and he is really a nice guy, the difference in age is just more than I want to deal with. I posted in another thread, how I feel so much more sophisticated and worldly than he is. And folks-I am not all that sophisticated and worldly . He's a nice country guy with manners, a good kisser, and I really admire that he isn't ageist..he's the one who persued me for 3 months! before I went out with him and is quite obvious in his desire for me to pull my Yahoo profile. He pulled his alleady!
I have really given this a lot of thought-wondering if I should spend more time getting to know him better or if I should go with my feelings after 4 dates-nice as they were. After all, it's my goal just to find an enjoyable person to hang out with and go to the many happenings that occur here in the summer...they are just more fun with a guy to hold hands.
However, since I've sort of decided to not go out with more than one person at a time this keeps me from other opportunities that are presenting themselves since I changed the way my profile read. And thats another irritant for another discussion at another time.
The Kid is out of town working until tomorrow night and I am going to Seattle for the weekend and maybe a few days more depending on how I feel (the nice thing about being retired), so I left it with "I'll call you when I get back".To which he replied "How about if I call you in the evenings-after all we have cell phones that reach anywhere..I'm not used to being in such available communication with someone I am dating. I guess it feels like a leash sort of.
I have realized, thanks to hours of reading here on iV, that although the venue is different the process remains much the same as it always has been. However, OLD does present opportunities that arent there IRL. Such as* I can, if I want to* date other men and also The Kid. It's not like they will know each other, but it seems sort of tacky. I have not agreed to any exclusive relationship-it's far too soon, but I know he has stronger feelings for me than I have for him. And I don't know what to do about that..so more thinking I guess is all I can do.
On another point, is there a list of OLD terms someplace around here..some I have figured out...I think to ghost is to just cease communicating right? And although much is the same as RL, there seems to be many subtle unacceptable things-so is there a list of them someplace? Serial Dating? Good or bad if is what I think it is? etc.

eellee in the Great Northwest