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| Mon, 03-12-2007 - 12:38am |
I'm a teacher, so from May 26-July 26 (or so) I have the summer to myself. Let me tell you, I've worked my BUTT off this year, being a first year teacher. This summer, my best friend (and roommate) will be out of state and I'll have the place to myself (well her boyfriend will be here, but you know what I mean.)
I tend to be shy and HATE going places alone. None of my friends are single. Does anyone have any tips to get over this fear of going places all alone? Also, does anyone have suggestions as to how I can meet more people this summer? I'm so busy all year long (hence the online dating.) I don't know what I'll do with all my time! Running errands and going to Barnes and Noble will get old after awhile. :OP On top of all that, I'd really like to find a guy to date (if not before summer!) I've been single almost 3 years (finding myself) an it is time to take it up a notch.
Thanks in advance!
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Church? Hobbies? Sports? Activities? It's hard to just strike up conversations with people you don't know, but that's how we meet new folks- and you're going to have to do it if you want to have some people to hang out with.
Look at it this way- maybe you can come up with a plan, say, to talk to at least 3 new potential girl friends each week. Think of it as a no-pressure (well, low-pressure) practice for talking with (gasp) GUYS. :) And you might make some new great friends at the same time.
Doing OLD isn't a bad thing, either. You might wind up meeting a guy that you're totally not interested in seeing naked, but you get along with very well and he becomes a good friend. One of my better friends is a woman with whom I had zero chemistry, but she and her husband (who she met OLD!) are some of my best friends.
The only way of getting rid of the fear of going out alone is by going out alone! It's really that easy. I used to have the same fear and then I had to start doing it because of my current job and now I'm to a point where I really don't care about anyone looking at me because I'm alone. In most cases, people are so wrapped up in themselves that the only one you really need to get past is you!
Good luck. Let us know how you progress...
Gal Blondie
I frequently hit the movies on my own or go to Starbucks with a good book and pick one of those comfy chairs to read in. It doesn't bother me to do those things alone.
As far as meeting men, do you have a park nearby with some walking/biking trails? The ones around here are always packed with people. Also, if you have a dog, maybe a local dog run where people bring thieir dogs to socialize. Maybe a yoga class or joining a gym? You'll probably meet someone great when you're no longer looking~always seems to work out that way.
Good luck and enjoy your break!
I hear ya! I'm in my third year of teaching and eagerly anticipating the summer. We opened up a new high school this year and it is hell on earth. Anyway, I will be working on my Master's over the summer, so I should keep fairly busy. I often go places alone (I've been single for a year) and have no qualms anymore about doing so. Like another poster said, often times other people don't even notice or care. It's more about being comfortable enough with yourself to consider yourself "enough."
I'm in Houston, and thinking about taking a couple of daily road trips for hiking and whatnot. Should be fun!
Yeah it's something I definately need to work on getting over. I'm very independent and whatnot, but I hate trying new things all alone! Hopefully that'll change. Tackling challenges and fears is something I'm all about doing (and I feel I do it well,) but this just seems like one I continuously struggle with, and I don't know why!
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