1st date Fri nite & ? on the pilot ....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
1st date Fri nite & ? on the pilot ....
17
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:28pm

1st, the pilot. Not sure how to respond to this.

Photobucket

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2003
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 11:10pm

When I read the pilot's comment about losing your e-mail, I didn't think he meant your e-mail address but rather that your message slipped down his list enough that he forgot to answer. It actually happens to me at work all the time.

As to the Boston guy, I can't quite put my finger on why but when I read the message I had a big "don't go" zip through my mind. The whole thing seems almost too convenient. His car is out of commission but feel free to come spend the weekend. If you really want to meet him, maybe you should suggest setting something up for the following weekend somewhere that you can meet him and leave on your own. I'm not usually an overly cautious person and think people are generally good, but this situation is giving me concern.

Whatever you decide, be careful.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 11:30pm

Oh! Yeah, maybe thats what the pilot meant.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2006
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 4:05am

The pilot didn't ask you out- he doesn't want to. If he wanted to, he would have. He's a pilot, for crying out loud; they have egos the size of New Jersey. HJNTIY.

The date? Sure, go, but no, don't crash at his place. He might just be a little bit oblivious about his offer being a tad... unseemly for a first date, or he might just be a genuinely kind guy who's trying a bit too hard to be nice, but either way no, don't do it.

Have a great time!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 11:17am

The pilot isn't interested if he was he would have said I do want to get together again however I'm sick - when a man is into you he will pin down that next date if not let you know he's interested.

Avatar Image"The Small Peanu
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 12:28pm
I totally agree. They way you let them treat you in the first two months is the way they'll treat you later. Even if he takes you out to a nice restaurant, he's set a pattern of having you come to him based on a lame excuse like "my car's in the shop." I would not use a train, plane, or car to go to any man on a first, second, or third date, let alone a date zero like this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2005
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 2:41pm

Just curious, what does HJNTIY mean? I saw you use it as a phrase.

Just curious...

Gal Blondie

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 2:42pm
I would have to agree with clber on this. I would probably not go to meet him and tell him that you would feel more comfortable if you guys were to meet halfway or have him come to you. Just to make sure he wants to make the effort and is not using the car thing as an excuse. He seems like a good catch and the fact that his car is in the shop could definately be true, but as always tread with caution and make sure HE wants to make the effort to see you and come your way :-)
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2005
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 2:49pm

I have to say I agree here. I tried to post another response, but I am having a rough time with the boards. I post a message and it says "not complete" and deletes it! I may have to do a separate post on that topic, lol, anyway....

Case history for ya: I had been emailing and talking to a guy I thought was a great match for me and was really excited about seeing him. Our first date his car was in the shop, so I drove an hour away to see him. I didn't really mind. We went for a walk in the woods and then out to a jazz club...I drove.

His remodeling biz was slow, so a lot of our hangouts were one of us going to the other's house and then out for a bite to eat. We ended up dating exclusively and would just crash at eachother's places due to the distance. I noticed that he (a lot of times) expected me to drive out to him, and b/c I set that pattern early on, he didn't have to make much effort.

I say have that dude hop his ass on a train and come to you. Chivalry is not dead, at the very least, meet 1/2 way. He can get off the couch if he wants a date with a hot woman. I think with the Internet and texting (lol) some people are just freaking lazy when it comes to dating. Don't settle...

Good Luck! It's a jungle out there, but a fun one : )

Gal Blondie

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:15pm

Thanks guys. Well, i cancelled anyway - mostly due to weather - we are in the midst of some bizzare freezing rain storm.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:17pm

lol, Im ALWAYS afraid to open your posts!

Photobucket

Pages