Date ideas

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Date ideas
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 12:53am

I need your advice. This might seem like a strange q, but is it ever OK to have a date early on at your place, or does that seem imappropriate (not that it will be an inappropriate date, just don't want him thinking I am implying that we are getting it on)

So, for St. Paddy's Day, I thought it'd be fun to drink Irish beer and hang at my place and talk, or do you think it's better early on to go out on real "dates?"

I am kind of leaning toward going out, but I am also trying to be considerate of the fact that he has a pre-teen son and might not be able to "go out" the way that I do. I don't want to bring it up with him, just trying to be considerate. It's a given we are going out Sat. night, just trying to be courteous (I know, shocking, lol).

Any suggestions or fun date ideas?

Thanks!

Gal Blondie

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In reply to: gal_blondie101
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 1:03am

Not sure what the connection between him having a pre-teen son and going out. If you mean him staying out late? Or that he may have to travel far? Or that he may drink too much? Or that ...?

For me I arrange my dates around my children when they are staying with me. I just met this woman off MySpace tonight and I really am excited about her. We made another date around Saturday morning coffee within walking distance to me (near her as well but not as close). I have my children with me Friday night-Saturday day but they sleep in until 11 or so (they're teenagers). I usually get up around 8am, walk the dog and wait for them to get up so I can do something with them. So instead of waiting around for them to wake up, I get to meet this woman again for coffee and be back in time when they get up.

You may just want to let him know your awareness of his situation and offer to brainstorm ways of enjoying each other around his parental responsibilities. It may be something other than spending it at your place. It may be spending it at a bar near where he and his son lives. Or ...

Mark

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Registered: 12-22-2005
In reply to: gal_blondie101
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 1:11am

Good ideas, and hey, that's awesome about the new girl. I love the feeling of being "excited" about seeing someone. Esp. with OLD, I find it hard to find someone I am excited about. I just know that the last girl he dated was really inconsiderate of him being a parent, and kind of selfish (my words--not his) and as I have no kids and have not dated anyone with a child who lives at home part-time, I'm trying to be an understadnign fish out of water.

I guess we'll just see if he mentions any specific ideas and we can go from there. I am kind...of...excited....I am also younger, so I have never dated anyone with a child that age (10).

Thanks again, happy St.Paddy's Day, hopefully it will be a lucky one for both of us : )

I think it will...

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: gal_blondie101
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 1:32am

Thanks ... oh yeah .. Luck of the Irish huh? ...who knows especially since I'm third generation Japanese American and she is half Japanese (mother's side) LOL.

I was surprised about being excited about her since I was not that jazzed when we traded emails and talked on the phone. It's all the chemistry thing yah?

I would leave it up to him to decide how he wants to do the date with his kid. I would appreciate anyone who is aware that I have children and that they come first. I use to think that the only women who would date me would have children as well but funny thing that most I have been in relationship with either have no children (like the current woman) or grown children.

Have fun!
Mark

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: gal_blondie101
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 2:06am

I dont really see what his having a pre-teen son has to do with it? Maybe I am missing something.

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Registered: 05-28-2006
In reply to: gal_blondie101
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 4:00am

I wouldn't do a date at my house early on, unless I wanted to get some action. I suggest that many guys might see it that way as well, and would advise women to not have dates over to their place until... well, it's not an automatic sign of wanting to hit the sheets, but I think you should just wait.

Part of dating is getting to know someone, getting progressively more intimate with them, and our homes tend to be pretty intimate- they're our inner sanctums. Some of us are more open with them, of course, but for many people they're our "safe place" where we hang to get away from the world a bit.

I'd wait, myself.