Could he have left any more quickly...?

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Could he have left any more quickly...?
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Sun, 03-18-2007 - 10:05am

St. Paddy's Day was a lot of fun. A nice dinner followed by jazz club, back to my place, and R and I crashed, after some kisses (but no sex of any kind, just making out). It was a lot of fun. He asked a lot of q's and seems to like me. He was discussing where he'd like to take me for dinner the next time, what kind of wedding I want, what my pet peeves re guys are, etc. We drank a bit, but nothing got too out of hand.

I woke up this morning slightly hung over, so I got in the shower and closed the BR door so as not to wake him up.I got out of the shower and he was up and said he had to head out cause they were delivering mulch to his house some time today. It seemed kind of abrupt to me. He gave me a really nice hug and said he'd call later and I am sure he will, but no coffee ore breakfast? I am maybe reading too much into this, but it seemed almost like he was raring to take off, which according to "He's Just Not that into You," is not a good sign (?)

He told me he will call me later and I know he will, but I am having a hard time reading him. Any thoughts?

Thanks,

GB

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 11:11am
How many dates have you been on? Not a whole lot, right? Is this the first time you have slept over together (sex or no sex, it's still a sleepover)? Maybe just the feeling of "too much too fast too soon" came over him. It's not that he's necessarily not interested, but maybe it spooked him a bit. Wait and see if he calls and don't worry about things. Maybe it was an excuse, maybe it was mostly true. But chances are, he's a little freaked out right now so just take it one step at a time.

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 12:54pm

I decided that I am being too sensitive/overanalytical about it. I know he'll call. Getting to know someone is a sometimes sensitive thing. so, I feel ok about where things left off.

Thank you for your response : )

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 8:41pm

Did he call? We need the scoop! lol


& can you refresh my memory? How many times have you gone out with this guy? He's not the one you posted his member name, right?

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Sun, 03-18-2007 - 9:02pm

It was our 2nd date, and he was not the one whose profile I posted. He hasn't called, but it's not even 9 pm here yet.

If he's weirded out, it's not my problem. I would just be disappointed not to hear from him. I liked him....

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 05-28-2006
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 10:11pm

Why do you think you need to "read" him? Just wait and see what happens.

If he calls and you guys go out again, cool. If not, well, then you know what he's thinking.

Man. Women have to analyze EVERYTHING, even a guy bailing to be ready to get a load of mulch! :)

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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 5:04am

I guess we do, huh?

However, he never called. If I don't hear from him by tonight, I think I will have my answer.

Gal Blondie

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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:20pm
I'm still going with the "too much too soon" theory. And yes, while it may not be "your problem", I'd keep it in mind for the next guy. IMO, a sleepover on the second date (sex or not), usually isn't a great idea. Sure it can work out, but more often than not, it doesn't.

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 2:10pm
We do analyze a lot and I bet I can speak for most women why we analyze so much. It's because most of the time guys just disappear without a trace after the first few dates or sometimes the first couple of months. It's like if we look at them wrong sometimes they will run or the slight mention of commitment or what we are looking for in a partner will send the guys running for the hills. Do you really blame us for overanalyzing?
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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 2:57pm

I left him an email just saying that things seemed a little awkward the other morning and since it's not like him not to call if he says he is, I wanted to make sure everything was cool, and that being tipsy, I didn't want him to have to drive home, but am glad he got to hang out, if he wants to call he can, if not that's fine, too.

I had to do it, I am not calling him,

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 02-13-2007
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 5:42am
Well it sounds to me that he thought he was going to get layed, and then when it never happened and you headed for the shower in the morning he knew for sure that it wasn't going to happen. He was probably a bit upset and frustrated and that's why he left the way that he did!

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