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| Fri, 09-08-2006 - 1:54pm |
Hi all,
I have a little dilemma and I'm hoping you all can give me your advice on this. First of all, I just want to give you a little background about me. I have been single for a little over a year. I just recently started dating again (I'm 30), and all of my friends have someone so they're not into the whole "going out" thing (not in that way anyway) and frankly I'm not too much into the bar/club thing myself anymore either, so I've been going the online dating route. I've met a few people so far, gone on a few first meets, all nice enough guys but just nothing has really became of anything yet. So I met this one guy from a site and we talked on the phone a few times and got along absolutely great. He had me laughing the whole time. I couldn’t wait to meet him. Now here comes the part where I need the advice….
When I met him in person, he didn’t look like his picture in a couple of ways. 2 ways that are actually kind of important to me. He said he was 5'10 in his profile and he is a lot shorter than that. That's not a real big deal I guess. Also in the picture he was wearing a hat so I wasn’t ready for when he showed up not wearing a hat to see the fact that he was going bald. That DOES happen to be a big deal to me. That's one thing that's a big issue with me. I am just not attracted to men who are balding or bald. I know I seem extremely picky, but as I read in someone else's post here, we are all entitled to our own tastes and have a right to be happy and attracted to who we choose to be with. Everyone I tell this story to is saying that it is never going to work if there is not atleast SOME attraction there. And there isnt. Only the fact that we get along great and would probably make great friends. What do you all think I should do?

Well, don't try to be his friend. That's an insult. If you don't want to date him, then that's your call. I wouldn't give him the "Let's be friends" line.
About men with thinning hair, you should know that male pattern baldness effects the majority of men. Upwards of 60% of men have thinning hair. 40% of women will develop female pattern baldness. Personally, I love men with thinning hair.
I suspect there's more to this guy that you dislike, than just his hair.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~