Too soon!???
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| Sun, 09-10-2006 - 9:52pm |
Okay...I am going to be brief and sum it up...
Just got out of a relationship with a woman who I loved very very much. We were together for 2 yrs. I left because I lost myself in the relationshp. I felt she had a lot of insecurities and was extremely needy.
This is my thing...I have fallen for an incrediable woman who gets me and my soul. She is beautiful inside and out. She is currently in a marriage to a butt for a man. She always has known she was gay. She is currently working on a divorce.
My problem is ... I DIDNT WANT THIS!! I didnt want to have feelings for her this deep. I wanted to just be single for some time. So here I am trying to balance my feelings for this woman, get over my other relationship, and take the needed time. And I feel guilty to myself because I don't want to rush anything, but she is so incrediable and has taken me by surprise.
Any advice out there>? When is it too soon? Is it ever too soon to fall in love again? Does this stuff just sneak up on you when you don't want it or what???

newdayhascome...
Pianoguy suggests you (quoting singer, Smokey Robinson) "SHOP AROUND a little further? What's your hurry?
It doesn't take a relationship professional to tell you this...BUT...you are IN COMPLETE CONTROL of your own actions! How much "down time" you require between one relationship and another is privvy only to yourself and not the rest of us!
I don't think there's a magic formula as far as "how soon and with whom?"
However...there ARE a lot of ivillagers who have 'rushed into another relationship' (aka REBOUND ROMANCE) only to discover that their 'I don't want to be alone attitude' was a BIGGER MISTAKE THAN THEY EXPECTED!
R-E-L-A-X and give yourself permission to think things through.
Pianoguy