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| Fri, 09-15-2006 - 11:24am |
Kinda taking a survey.... Younger or older. Do you have a preference? What's the difference? Pros? Cons?
I'm 34 and have dated both younger and older guys. When I was in my teens and early 20s, I always dated older because of the maturity level of guys vs girls. But after hitting 30, I seem to date younger. And kinda don't know the benefit to dating anyone over 35. So I'm looking for opinions. Please share, thanks.
Loonybunny

Hummm.... I sort of have this "ideal span" that I'm kind of looking in... around 33ish to around 45ish... give or take a couple of years, but the guy would have to really be mature and settled for me to dip below that 33 mark.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I used to be all for younger, now I am all for same age to 5 years older...
I did young and immature for 19 years. He was only a year older than me, but emotionally a 16-year old.
I have dated men older than me so far. The ages range from 10 years to (yikes) 22 years. Is it true that older means more mature? My X2B has shown me that is false. Why do I go for older? Perhaps it's because they seem more focused. And they are finally serious about their careers. But that could just be the select few that I've chosen to date.
Wow, what a great question!
I'm 36 and my BF (of 6 months) is 46. The age difference works for me though he thinks that my age is pushing the limit of his cutoff. We're both divorced with kids so have a lot in common that way and we're both NOT into the party scene. He just seems more emotionally available than a lot of men. My ex H is 7 years older than me and during our marriage he was always emotionally distant unless he wanted something.
I like that fact that he's older and more settled in his life. Once our kids are grown (in 9 years, yikes) we'll potentially have a whole new life. I'm taking it super slow for now.
Thanks for everyone's input... Maturity and focus are good reasons to date older guys. I like younger guys for their energy and optimism. I suppose if I meet someone mature, focused, energetic, and loves life... it won't matter what age he is...
Thanks again for the input. I'll keep you all updated as I find out more during this dating adventure. BTW, the young guy I'm dating is beginning to show his immaturity (loud music and video games) and lack of focus (no career plan). But he is refreshing because he's not complicated and not suspicious. He lives in the moment and doesn't looked stressed out.