Is it too much to ask of him...

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Is it too much to ask of him...
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 9:49pm

Still seeing "blind date guy" who lives 4.5 hours away. We had a very nice weekend a couple weeks ago (he stayed with a friend but we went out three times that weekend). We've been IM'ing most every night. It has come up that he's been dating around A LOT ever since we met. Since he just got out of a big relationship at the end of June, I figure it's good that he dated around. I don't want to be a rebound.

Now, it's obvious he likes me. He drives down 4.5 hours to see me (and no, it's not for sex, as we haven't yet...). He sends me lots of texts and emails and such. But, when I said that I was at the point where I'd be uncomfortable if he were still dating other people...he seemed to freak.

Now, I was clear that I'm not looking for an immediate committment. I'm not even really asking that he's my "boyfriend" (I don't think). I just need, if I'm going to go forward with this, for him to stop dating other women - at least for a trial period. Is that a lot to ask?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-21-2006 - 11:35pm
I don't think so... not at all... and if he likes you "that much" one would think he'd be willing to agree to that to see where it goes next.... as a next step.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 5:47am
Well at least you are finding out NOW before you slept with him. 4 hours is too far away unless you plan on moving. yikes.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 5:35pm

No, it's not too much too ask, but he's not willing, at least not yet. So I would keep dating other people yourself and NOT sleep with him unless and until he agrees to exclusivity (and you should also have a talk about what you mean by that, taking down online profiles, etc, to make sure you're on the same page).

Sheri